Crikey! What a lot of sad people out there! What you need is to get the balance right, to play with the children and scaffold their learning. There is the need for adult led focus activities and child initiated. Find out what your children want to learn about and plan accordingly to cover all the areas. This way you have their interests and a great basis to start from. Model the skills you need them to learn. Teach them the boundaries and what is right and wrong, you wreck the role play area - it's closed for a day. There's nothing wrong with working with groups, the other children can be free-flowing and accessing child initiated tasks. The assessment it 80:20 and the 80 will be based on them practising and embedding the learning you have taught them through the activities you have set out to help them achieve this. Sounds to me like you need to get the chance to go visit other settings or get a lead EYFS teacher in to boost your confidence in how you plan and organise your day. Remember to be cunning and plan for children to have the opportunities to achieve both inside and out with a range of objects. Clipboards to sign up for a turn on the scooter help with turn taking and are a great way to encourage those boys to learn to write their name. And remember, you are a professional and if you can justify to them why you do something in a particular way then they will understand. Don't know where you teach, but you're welcome to come along and visit how we do it and to chat through concerns and see whether we can ease your stress. Not saying we are the best, but we are a happy team and the children achieve well and we think we have the balance right between the EYFS demands and those of a school! Good luck!