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fear of being overshadowed by fellow student

Discussion in 'Trainee and student teachers' started by clairelou88, Dec 23, 2011.

  1. Hi,
    I'm a 2nd year primary undergrad student, not long been into school for my prep week before starting my block after christmas. I'm in with another student, who is a friend of mine and he is in the other year 3 class. Initially I thought this would be really good having support from a friend being able to share ideas etc. However I was mistaken.....he is a real brown noser. We have only been in the school for 5 days so far and he's already brought gifts for his teacher (which is his choice) but he's even brought my teacher gifts, trying to worm his way in. I'm just really concerned that I'm going to look like a bad student because I'm not lavishing gifts on my teacher or the other members of staff. To me it looks as if he's trying to buy a good grade, and he's actually looking like a big creep, but both of the teachers seem to be lapping it up.

    Has anyone else ever been in this position before? If so what did you do? Or does anyone have any suggestions?
    I just don't want to bee overshadowed because of his brash behaviour when I'm working just as hard in terms of teaching/planning/socialising etc
  2. Captain Obvious

    Captain Obvious New commenter

    Everybody loves getting a gift, but really...see how it works out when you actually start having to work your way into the teachers' good graces.
    They will want to be seeing that you can deliver decent lessons and work on feedback (at least you'd hope so) - If you're good, you're going to get a good grade, simple as that.
  3. minnieminx

    minnieminx New commenter

    Teachers aren't stupid...honest we aren't!

    I'd be very suspicious of a trainee who bought me presents (apart from when they leave) and would think buying another teacher a present was just plain weird. Of course I would say thank you and look grateful though.

    The problem you have, and this is going to sound odd, is that some teachers will try to 'mother' male students. So all that you see as 'lapping it up' is actually going to cause him problems later on.

    Just ignore it all and do your job, easier said than done I know. Plan fabulous lessons (don't fall into the trap of doing his work for him just so he doesn't say anything bad about you) and teach brilliantly. Your end of practice report will not say 'so and so was a naff trainee because she didn't buy me any presents.' It really won't!
  4. Thank you for that! =)
    It doesn't sound odd at all, because I can actually see that my teacher in particular is mothering him because she has a son his age.
    Just going to try my hardest andhopefully it will prevail!
  5. slippeddisc

    slippeddisc New commenter

    People can tell if someone is brown nosing and they will eventually find it irritating. We recently had a student in who was very over the top and no one particularly thought he was a good teacher!


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