Sorry I can't remember your full name so I hope you get this. You were obviously asking for help and advice when you posted about your daughter. I presume you've pulled your post because you didn't get this. You've done the best you can with your daughter. Teenage girls are a nightmare but they do grow out of it. You can't stop teenagers having sex - we all know that. I knew what my daughter was up to but I chose not to let her have boys in her bedroom. That was my decision. She hated me for it. She spent as much time out of the house as possible and for three years hardly even slept here. Sometimes I had no idea where she was. It was horrible. You've chosen to handle your daughter in a different way. You know where she is and that she's safe. On reflection, I wonder if I should have done the same. Mine was a little older than your daughter when the problems started. She also dabbled in drugs and this has affected her mental health now. I really hope it works out for both of you. You probably have a much better relationship with her that I had with my daughter. Good luck and keep up the good work. You are not a bad mother and don't let anyone tell you that you are.