I don't see that at all. I think it's about pandering to social expectation. As I said, I think life's too short. Sounds to me as though the OP has gone the extra mile and more. Now she'll probably be expected to do it every year regardless of her own needs. Her mother's learned that her daughter will give in to make life easier as mum is apparently not well. I suspect that the OP will find herself in this position again now mum has found out how easy it is to get her wishes accommodated.