My mother passed away 10 years ago leaving my father and I with my two young brothers. Within a few months he met my step-mother who is significantly younger than him. In general I have gotten on well with her, perhaps as we are close in age, but my brothers have never gotten along with her. Mainly as, in the early days whilst they were still children, my father spent most of his time and attention on his then girlfriend. As time has gone on I have moved away and set up my own life but my brothers, now both adults still live with my father and step-mother in an uneasy truce. It has come to a head tonight, a much loved family pet has died whilst my father is out of the country. To support my stepmother I travelled a long way to be with her but this evening when my brother came and sat with me to watch tv she went wild at him; screaming and saying he should move out and get his own life or interact with her and my father when I am not around. I know she is grieving but feel she was out of line speaking to my brother as she did. By the same token I do agree that as adults it is time my brothers started to move onto the next stage of their lives as they work full time but don't contribute to the running costs of the home. Not sure any of this makes much sense but outside opinions greatly appreciated! I don't want to "take sides" but am feeling forced to!