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Ever been bullied or made to feel so ill you ended up off with stress or resigned? Please read.

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by dht46, Feb 15, 2015.

  1. sockknittingtubes

    sockknittingtubes New commenter

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  2. sockknittingtubes

    sockknittingtubes New commenter

    this happened to me - awful- but this was at the end of my career- started when I was 58 - I kept going worked on everything to 'improve' in the end after 2 years of bullying- threats of capability and lesson observations that were failures for strange reasons I went off sick and in the end left. I loved my job I really really did but I was sick before work had headaches and cried all the way home and often at work. I was bullied, ignored undermined and accused of having a posh voice. I am still recovering and despite wanting to work for a few more years I did not transfere to another school I retired and will not be going back to a job I loved even as I had hoped - part time . just got a job as a machinist i a factory sewing cushions- love it and no evening or weekends work!
  3. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    Yeah, I forgot about that...I was told that too. As a criticism of my teaching. o_O
    OH's mother doesn't think so!
  4. anon8956

    anon8956 New commenter

    Unbelievable how long this thread is.
    We can't all be making it up. I am being pushed out because I'm on ups3 and am no where near retirement (they've done the maths) . Not on support or capability yet - only a matter of time. Have broken my excellent attendance record by going off with stress recently. ( It is now clear the head is going to keep on twisting things ). I'm still in fight mode rather than flight mode. I really think someone prominent like Justine Greening (come on she's new, let's give her a chance) should investigate this problem.
    There is no accountability on heads unless their results dip or significant numbers of staff leave
    I do not trust mine with a reference. Even a sideways move is going to be tricky.
    Does anyone know if Ofsted take note of how many staff have left or been off sick, or is it still a badge of honour for rogue heads.
    Anyway that's my contribution for now.
    Let's keep this thread going.
  5. anon8956

    anon8956 New commenter

    A colleague of mine had already handed in notice
    Despite this head wrote a formal telling off letter for something trivial. That person then went off sick. School had more lessons to cover. There was absolutely nothing the head could have gained apart from perverse pleasure. Head even threatened to change his reference to new school retrospectively.
    Mrsmumbles likes this.
  6. mikeonfreeserve

    mikeonfreeserve New commenter

    Anyone who relies on their union when being bullied is making a mistake in most cases. Teachers, like other professionals seem very reticent to get proper employment law advice, rather than thinking they can do it themselves. Please get proper, independent and confidential legal advice.

    Google Karen Hall and Durham County Council. Read the EAT judgements and bear in mind her union, the NUT, said she did not have a case.
  7. anon8956

    anon8956 New commenter

    Have googled Karen Hall. It took 11 yrs all told!
  8. binaryhex

    binaryhex Lead commenter

    Schools are pressure cooker environments now. The stakes are so high and the finances so tight that everyone in SLT is on the lookout to remove anyone by any means they see as 'substandard' or expensive. Employing NQTs and non-qualified teachers, especially if not bound by the old teacher's contract, are a great way to balance the books - at the cost of experienced and mature staff. Behaviour has been nose-diving in schools in recent years for this very reason.

    I stopped paying subs to the NUT years ago and added employment cover to my house insurance when I saw how poorly they were defending long-standing teachers accused of trivial manufactured misdemeanours. They seem constantly to seek the path of least resistance and let many teachers down by jumping for settlement agreements at the earliest time 'because it is in everyone's interest'. They seem incapable of realising that this just makes matters worse, that SLT have realised that there are few consequences to anything they do, in the very unlikely event that they will be taken to a tribunal. The unions are part of the problem, not part of the solution.

    The unions like the NUT and NASUWT need to stop dabbling in politics all of the time and start fighting for their members, belligerently and with enthusiasm.
    rowdy and mustlovedogs like this.
  9. bob79

    bob79 Occasional commenter

    Yep! With bells and whistles on I'm afraid.
  10. ejl1609

    ejl1609 New commenter

    It is reassuring that I'm not the only one to have felt like this whilst working as a teacher. After 10 years of teaching I resigned this summer, due to the threat of informal coaching being implemented in September. I had already completed one round of this successfully. I don't have another job to go to, but enough was enough. Yes I am worried about the future, I need to work, but a least I have a chance of being happy and hopefully build up my self confidence.
    maud1901 likes this.
  11. Teacher1512

    Teacher1512 New commenter

    I too can be added to this list. It's hard to know where to turn. Even if you involve the unions, at some point you have to go into school without them. I think it's the fear of making things worse that puts people off acting. I'm thinking of writing to the chair of governors and the person in charge of the academy now that I have escaped! X
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  12. rubadubchoochoo

    rubadubchoochoo New commenter

    My question is how can one combat Management's technique of denying everything.

    Could we say that "given that you have a Duty of care towards me, and given that I have reported stress/ bullying, etc, I find it inappropriate and unacceptable that you should resort to denial/blocking/ minimising my concerns. I would ask that you think again about how best to handle this matter."
    imaan86 likes this.
  13. imaan86

    imaan86 New commenter

  14. Mollywest76

    Mollywest76 New commenter

    I was bullied by the most horrendous headteacher, after I discovered severe wrong doing in the school, by this so called professional. Sadly, this person drew all my friends and colleagues into his evil plan, forcing them to isolate me and making my job impossible to carry out. He recorded my every move, placed a recording device in my room, made my targets impossible to achieve and made me feel like a lower form of life.
    This headteacher was determined to conceal his wrongdoing, to preserve his position. He now has to live with his evil strategy of making my position untenable.
    Don't suppose he's bothered, but I strongly believe that one day he will get his due reward.
    After a period of extreme, continuous stress, I was diagnosed with cancer, which my family and I believe was caused by this horrific situation. I had to resign and I still cry about it six years on.
    I'm sure this situation must arise repeatedly in our schools. Sadly my union didn't support me advising me to walk away. So much for paying my subscriptions for all those years.
    I'm very bitter and angry, but I'm now working in a fantastic school where I feel loved and valued. There are decent people out there!
    Schools can be evil, outrageous places.
    PGat likes this.
  15. angrypixie

    angrypixie New commenter

    I feel that I have been pushed out of a school I love. I have been given an unfair workload compared with my colleagues which caused me to be signed off for stress. They then offered me a three day role over five days knowing that I leave quite a distance from the school. Their excuse was that they didn't want classes shared by two teachers or classes having the same subject twice in one day. They also said they didn't want to 'overload' me - possibly a dig at the fact I'd been signed off on stress earlier in the year. They were also giving me a very high teaching timetable compared with other members of my dept again. As soon as I emailed the head saying that I could not take on what he suggested and would therefore be leaving he was writing to parents, putting me on a list of staff leaving the school at the end of the year. It's like he wanted me out all the time - certainly don't feel valued! His loss. I'm a good teacher and I work really hard. No school to go to and now want to leave teaching.
  16. stonerose

    stonerose Occasional commenter

    "I'm a good teacher and I work really hard."

    Hold fast to this A.P. Don't let the warped and psychopathic views of your bullies cloud your self-worth. Their judgement is the verdict of warped minds. Education is full of them.:mad:

    You can get through this and start to feel a whole person again, even a stronger one.

    My best wishes

  17. tenpast7

    tenpast7 New commenter

    Hi everyone,
    Just a quick response to this thread. I was "forced" out of my career because of my relative expense ie. UPS2 and many years of loyal service. Very humiliating experience to be observed by non-teaching, non specialist staff and judged by those you could not do my job yet can wield such power.
    All because of budgets, disguised as capability, and then the spread of fear within a "successful institution under the name of Academy".
    This profession is destroying itself!

    Best of luck to all who remain in it.
    Compassman likes this.
  18. schoolsout4summer

    schoolsout4summer Lead commenter

    You may find, that after a period of time you regain your self-confidence and self-esteem.
    However, you may not.
  19. tenpast7

    tenpast7 New commenter

    I am very happy to say that both my confidence and self-esteem have returned in bucket loads after leaving teaching. I still am angry at how teachers at the chalk-face are not respected by some SLT, awkward lazy pupils full of their "rights", and some ignorant parents. Politicians also contribute to "teacher bashing" through their short term policies, badly thought-out initiatives.
    Teachers make easy targets, they are usually dedicated professionals like doctors and nurses, who do their jobs to help/benefit others in need. Money is often not the key motivation.
    Maybe we could have 11% pay rises as Politicians award themselves.
    Another factor that makes teachers easy prey, is that they often work alone with heavy responsibility, most take this very seriously. This can increase their vulnerability in my opinion, and this is exploited by wolf-like managers.
    I often see parallels with WW2 Documentaries and Nazi selection procedures.
  20. rsadler1979

    rsadler1979 New commenter

    I'm so sorry this happening to you and I feel sick knowing this is still going on. I left teaching almost exactly 2 years ago having been forced into a near break down by my Head who used capabilities procedures to break me. After 6 months, I got a job as a youthworker and literally felt like I had to rebuild my life. My GP sent me to a mindfulness group, not for everyone I know, but it really helped me work through what I would describe as a kind of grief at losing a career I used to love. I now have my life back, although as a youthworker my current job is relatively insecure and under paid which has left me with financial difficulties. Please believe you will get through this and you are not alone. I was nearly suicidal 2 years ago and I have come out the other side. Please make sure you have support around you and someone to lean on. I blamed myself for my ' failure ' for a long time. It isn't you, it's them, and if they choose to sell their souls to bolster their own position that is their choice ; don't believe their lies.
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