I'm in an overseas British school in a relatively large department. I have a good group of friends and have always preferred socialising away from work to get away from that "teacher talk" pit fall, especially as I have very different hobbies than my colleagues. However, in my current setting there seems a culture of enforced socialising and I have several times been called out (in front of the whole department, during meetings) for not attending these socials (which are often arranged ad hoc) or for not drinking/leaving early. I really have no interest in going at all, I attend to not put a strain on my relationships with colleagues. I wouldn't socialise with them at all usually, they're nice enough people and good teachers but very different to me (values, interests, lifestyle). I recently was called out by my HoD for not answering her texts over the weekend regarding a social event I'd already said I wasn't going to as I had plans with my partner. Am I going mad or being a psychopath? This seems very odd. Surely my weekends are mine to do with as I please?