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End of a relationship

Discussion in 'Personal' started by sfire, Sep 28, 2020.

  1. sfire

    sfire New commenter

    My partner went out last night at 10pm saying he was going to visit a friend in hospital. When I finished watching a programme I realised that could not be true due to it being so late for hospital visiting hours. So I called him. On the phone he became extremely defensive and agitated. Anyway to cut a long story short he told me where he was, entirely innocent but he came home angry. He said by calling him (which I have never done before like this by the way), I had embarrassed him in front of his friend. He said I should trust him despite his lie and I should know that there was something important for him if he lied to me like this. He is adamant that I should just accept what he says as he would never do something wrong.
    I was being made to feel as though this is my fault, and I don’t understand why. In the morning turned on the charm and was overly nice. But I cannot take this kind of mental stress anymore.
    How do I walk away from someone I have children with and a house.
     
  2. Aquamarina1234

    Aquamarina1234 Star commenter

    Hi. Do you post on Mumsnet?
     
  3. Jamvic

    Jamvic Star commenter

    So how was the friend in hospital. Ok I hope.
     
  4. sfire

    sfire New commenter

    There was no friend in hospital.
    Sorry I should not post on here.
     
  5. sfire

    sfire New commenter

    Will find a counsellor in the morning. Tried taking the thread down but can’t find a way to do it
     
  6. Aquamarina1234

    Aquamarina1234 Star commenter

    10 posts (all curriculum/job app based) since 2013 and you chose here to discuss a very personal problem?
     
  7. sfire

    sfire New commenter

    I read on this site every day. I don’t normally have much to say. So yeh posting on a personal thread here was very stupid. I forgot how cruel some folk on tes can be.

    So it seems I will have to unsubscribe due to the potentially humiliating posts now coming my way.
     
  8. Aquamarina1234

    Aquamarina1234 Star commenter

    Gosh. Exactly the reaction I expected. I must be some kind of clairvoyant.
     
  9. Jamvic

    Jamvic Star commenter

    I’ve misunderstood then. I thought the upset was because your partner felt embarrassed in front of his friend in hospital.
     
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  10. nizebaby

    nizebaby Star commenter

    Very few people on here are cruel but many have been stung into giving generously of their time and sympathy only to find that it's been directed towards an attention-seeking troll, Having lurked on here for seven years, you will understand what I'm talking about.
     
  11. nizebaby

    nizebaby Star commenter

    Having been a member on here for fourteen years, you will haveseen many instances of posters having their time and sympathy wasted on trolls.
     
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  12. MrMedia

    MrMedia Star commenter

    You can email one of the moderators and they will remove the thread for you. @TES_Community
     
  13. Morninglover

    Morninglover Star commenter

    I wouldn't trust a partner who goes out at 10pm and lies about it.
     
    emerald52 likes this.
  14. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Dear OP

    You really should have posted on the Tes Problem Page. That's where you'll find expert advice and sympathy.
    Ignore this lot.

    Regards

    Aunty Dunty
     
  15. LondonCanary

    LondonCanary Star commenter

    Oh. Has he done this sort of thing before?
    What was the innocent place he went to that wasn't a hospital?
     
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  16. blazer

    blazer Star commenter

    Well at least he wasn't going to the pub!
     
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  17. mothorchid

    mothorchid Star commenter

    He went out after 10pm? Don't faff about with worrying over your relationship. Just shop him to the police.
     
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  18. gainly

    gainly Star commenter

    It's not illegal to go out after 10 pm. There isn't a curfew, it's just that pubs have to close at 10 pm.
     
    mothorchid likes this.
  19. racroesus

    racroesus Star commenter

    My father used to go out to 'see a man about a dog' and it was much later that I discovered that this was code for going to his Masonic Lodge. Some lodges sit at full moon, might your partner belong to one?
     
    nomad and BelleDuJour like this.
  20. BelleDuJour

    BelleDuJour Star commenter

    Hmmmmm.……………..I'm with Aquamarina
     

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