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Does everyone criticize each other at your work place?

Discussion in 'Personal' started by 16 Heath, Mar 27, 2012.

  1. The new foreign teacher I'm training has just pointed out to me the fact that nearly everyone at my school regularly slags one another off but never openly/to their face. Thinking about it, in my department alone, EVERYONE, bought our HOD a present at Christmas (except myself) and yet we all think this person is thoroughly objectionable and can't think of anything nice to day about them. Yet, we are beyond civil to one another, often offering help with personal difficulties, buying each other presents etc.

    The foreign teacher now wants to know if I don't follow suit because I'm from the north! LOL!

    Do you have elements of hypocrisy in you staffroom? Why do people feel the need to appear as buddies?
  2. catmother

    catmother Star commenter

    This probably happens in most workplaces,not just schools.
  3. Oh goodness, yes! I work (but not for much longer TF!) in a very small workplace (3 FT inc me, 1 PT and 1 pool staff) and they all b*tch about each other incessantly.
    Lord alone knows what they say about me behind my back when I'm not around. I've been there less than 4 months and I cannot wait to leave. I've never worked in such a toxic atmosphere in my puff. Little wonder I'm the 4th member of staff to quit this post in less than 18 months.
  4. wiemaranerlover

    wiemaranerlover New commenter

    I must be very lucky because as far as I am aware, we don't b*tch about each other. Or maybe I just don't hear it and everyone talks about me behind my back!

    In industry however it was a different matter - b*itchy is an understatement...
  5. I see. Guess I'm just naive then to think that all concern is genuine. Must be more discerning.
  6. anteater

    anteater New commenter

    Not really. Most of the time we are so rushed off our feet that we barely have time to talk to each other. If we are complaining, it is not about each other, but about how we are running ourselves into the ground to help Y11s who are too lazy to do anything.
  7. There's only one person in our school that nobody likes much.... but we don't really '***'.... just the odd anecdote, and raised eyes, and a muttered 'Typical!'
  8. Oh, there are lovely workplaces too! I was once part of a fantastic team which worked and socialised together and we genuinely liked one another. Since we went our separate ways (due to liquidation of the company [​IMG]), a number of us still keep in touch and meet up on a regular basis. We've networked and helped each other find other jobs too.
    I was quite shocked at the level of playground sniping in my current workplace. It's played a big part in my desire to leave. Perhaps I ought to bring it up at my exit interview... [​IMG]
  9. anon2799

    anon2799 New commenter

    I worked in a school like that. It was very unpleasant. I like to know where I stand with people even if they can't stand me or are unhappy with me. We tend to tell it like it is to eachother so if we have a disagreement it's aired and dealt with. I'm not a sulker, if I'm unhappy about an issue I'll come right out and say it and the staff at my school are the same. Thank god. Mainly Northerners too !
  10. marymoocow

    marymoocow Star commenter

    Our has got worse since a change in head. People are less happy in their job, particularly TAs, and it seems to have caused more bit*hing. We are a very social staff and generally have a good laugh, but there are one or two less popular members of staff that are bitched about behind their back. I actually think the main problem, which isnt huge, is actually ring leaders. We have a very extovert TA and teacher who have been there years. I have come to realise that they are actually very intolerant of newcomers initially and are very quick to judge. After they have got to know them they are fine. However recently I have become very uncomfortable with the level of what can only be described as bullying by the TA towards another TA. The rest of the staff now change the subject if the bit*hy TA starts and this week I mentioned it to the DH as I felt it was going too far.
  11. Most of the staff I work with are lovely but there are a small core of colleagues who are very ambitious and want to make it to management within the next couple of years and they are very bi***y towards each other. It can be so embarrassing and unprofessional-there was one incident where 2 of these ladies were yelling at each other about evening plans with the students in front of an agency staff who was with us for that afternoon-he looked horrified! The one thing that I have noticed in my workplace is that the bi***y ones are all very young-not one of them is over twenty! The older ones just get on with it.
  12. henriette

    henriette New commenter

    the teachers at my place are pretty united in liking each other (except for a couple of mis-fits) and also united in resenting/disliking SLT

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