The reason I'm posting is that as well as being under massive pressure at work, as we all are these days, I'm getting constant pressure from my family (mainly from my parents & grandma) who really don't seem to get the fact that I have virtually no free time and mountains of things filling up my brain, and I'm wondering how other people's friends and family are about it and if you have any suggestions for how to get them to understand it. My family are all basically nice people and my parents have always been pretty laid back and supportive, but over the last couple of years every time I talk to them they seem to be having a go at me about something I haven't done - my house isn't tidy enough, my garden needs weeding, I haven't answered their email...the list goes on! My grandma regularly complains to my mum about how all of her other grandchildren phone her and visit her more than I do (she lives 2 hours away from me), and on my birthday recently she sent me a card that said "I haven't bothered buying you a present this year seeing as you didn't get me one on my birthday" (I'd sent her a card, and phoned to apologise for not being able to get over to visit her, which she seemed to accept at the time). I've explained over and over again to them how much work I have to do and how difficult I find it fitting everything in, but I can only do this so much before it just sounds like excuses. I find it very hurtful that if I haven't done something that in their opinion I should have done, they immediately come to the conclusion that it's because I don't care rather than thinking that maybe I'm really struggling to do everything I need/want to do. When I recently tried to point this out to them and ask for a bit of understanding, their response was basically to tell me that I need to see it from their point of view and make more effort! I really am at my wits end, I've always been close to my family but it's at the point now where I really don't want to visit them or phone them because it just makes me even more stressed than I already am. Help!