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Do you talk about politics with your friends and family?

Discussion in 'Personal' started by coffeekid, Oct 15, 2019.

  1. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    The last time I tried to talk politics with a family member (who doesn't share my own leanings) was with my much loved aunt, a few years ago. Her lips disappeared and she said she just ... wouldn't.
    At the time I was a bit bemused, but actually, she might have a point. I've gone off some people when I've found out their political beliefs are everything I can't stand, and no doubt plenty people have gone off me when certain things have come up in conversation.
    Do you think it's best to keep schtum? Or am I a total weed? On another note, I have nothing but admiration for political activists who knock on people's doors to talk politics. I'm a member of a political party and the most I would commit to would be stuffing envelopes.
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  2. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    This. Politics, religion and climate change issues can be very divisive.

    Scum of the earth. All of them! You either agree with them, so discussion is a waste of time, or you don't, so discussion is a waste of time.
  3. lunarita

    lunarita Senior commenter

    I still talk to friends - I think there's something in us that attracts us more to people with similar values so friends tend to hold similar views. Like you, I go off people if I discover they hold certain views and those friendships don't last.

    I don't talk to family about politics any more though, I think we're scared to confront the differences between us. I have lived and worked in Europe for many years and a couple of close family members voted for brexit.

    Here in Spain, talking about the Catalan problem and the rise of the right has become dangerous territory in recent years but again, those I consider friends have similar views to mine.
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  4. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    That sounds like it's best for others to keep shtum when they're with you!
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  5. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    Lol. This is why I don't go door-knocking.
    nomad likes this.
  6. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    Hey. I'm not a saint. Humans are flawed, and I'm VERY flawed.
  7. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    Sssht. You shouldn't have said that. I've gone off you now.
  8. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    Oh shoosh.
  9. smoothnewt

    smoothnewt Star commenter

    Fortunately my immediate relatives and friends are all in accordance with my and my husband’s political views. Being a retired MFL teacher I am naturally pro-Europe, and my ex-colleagues and I always shared the same views - unsurprising as we were a mixed bunch including French, German, Austrian and a Pole. With all of these I will happily discuss the Brexit fiasco.

    I tend to avoid discussing Brexit with the odd Leaver of my acquaintance as there is really no point. Too depressing!
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  10. Shedman

    Shedman Star commenter

    I joined the Labour party in the mid 90s when Tony Blair was the leader in the era before he became prime minister. I was sucked in by Blair's 'pretty straight kind of guy' persona and I genuinely thought he was a fresh breath of air in British politics. One of the first acts of the New Labour government in 1997 was to stage the teachers' pay award, delaying it's full implementation to save money at the expense of teachers' living standards. It was then I realised that Blair was no better than the rest of them until the illegal Iraq war confirmed that in fact he was probably worse. I've never trusted a politician since.
  11. lanokia

    lanokia Star commenter

    Talk with family sure.

    Not colleagues... not 'friends'
  12. sparklepig2002

    sparklepig2002 Star commenter

    We discuss but can agree to disagree amicably and like sensible adults. You can still like/ be friends with folk who hold different views.
  13. blue451

    blue451 Lead commenter

    Depends what those views are though.
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  14. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    To a point. I can't be friends with a racist. Sorry.
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  15. smoothnewt

    smoothnewt Star commenter

    Oddly enough I’m just this minute involved in a political discussion on WhatsApp with my husband and daughters!
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  16. Oscillatingass

    Oscillatingass Star commenter

    Good common sense.
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  17. florian gassmann

    florian gassmann Star commenter

    That would indeed inhibit conversation and dialogue. Does the same happen with other things you can't stand (religion, crime etc.), or is it just politics that raises your hackles?
  18. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    But also, a waste of time on both sides. As I say, sometimes better just not to bring it up. My uncle (not a blood relation) used the word "nig-nog" in a conversation about immigrants and that was it for me. He can get tae. I'm not going to be "the better person" in this scenario.
  19. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    Our eldest is a union activist who's been campaigning to improve working conditions for co-workers in her sector. It's taken her to some interesting places, including giving evidence to a Parliamentary committee. She's appeared as a noisy demonstrator twice on national TV, and I'm proud of everything she does in that field. Of course we discuss Politics, it's part of my degree and for a short while I taught it at 'A' Level.

    Our immediate family rarely disagree on Political issues. I'm more wary about sounding off about B****t in the company of other middle-aged people as I know the odds are that most of them voted differently to me. It's just not worth the hassle.
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  20. primarycat

    primarycat Star commenter

    Family, yes. We don't all agree and there's one person that I have to stop the conversation with before it becomes too heated but we can talk for a bit before that point. I have one colleague who has similar but not identical views to me and we eye roll and text each other if something really significant happens. That's about it.
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