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Do women make too much of a song and dance about Christmas?

Discussion in 'Personal' started by Dunteachin, Dec 14, 2011.

  1. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Apparently, a third of men think we do.
    So, do we women throw all our energy into making Christmas a festive, fun-packed occasion and collapse in a heap afterwards? Or, are you of the "it'll come and it'll go" mentality, like myself?
    When the children were little, I was determined to make every Christmas magical for them and ran myself ragged, but now they are adults, it seems to have lost its sparkle for me and I detest the commercialism that surrounds it.
    Mr DT makes me laugh when he announces " Only a week to go, and there's so much to do for Christmas". Oh, yeah. Like what? I am the one who goes out and buys the presents and wraps them; writes all the cards and posts them; plans the meals, buys the food, cooks and washes up; decorates the tree and generally makes the whole thing go with a swing.
    What does he do? Man-handles the tree, buys the booze, goes to the pub on Christmas Day with the offspring whilst I cook lunch and then falls asleep. Christmas sorted.
    Women make a song and dance about Christmas because we have to!
    Season's Greetings to you all [​IMG]
     
  2. Middlemarch

    Middlemarch Star commenter

    My dad (He's now 78) wouldn't have cared if Christmas had been abolished, even when my two brothers and I were little. He was/is always more than happy for my mum to take care of it all.
     
  3. lardylady

    lardylady Star commenter

    Who says we have to? Nobody's told me to make a song and dance about it.
    Leave it all to your OH if you're that bothered, and if things go pear shaped, and not to his liking, then maybe he'll realise that everything that happens at Christmas is down to your hard work and next year he might pull his finger out.
    I'm a Christian and I go to church, so I indulge myself fully in the spiritual side of the festivities, but as for overspending/buying stuff that nobody wants/working myself into a frazzle over a flipping turkey etc- I never have and I never will.

     
  4. lindenlea

    lindenlea Star commenter

    OH likes to buy presents and buy drink, sorts the tree out and is keen to see the family, as if by magic! I do the cards,organise the present ideas,the food and the negotiations for visiting. I think it's a reasonable division of labour. We both like it to be a special family time but this year it's a bit tricky. I certainly don't make a song and dance of it but I'm loving getting the cards, the tree looks lovely and I've got 4dozen mince pies in the freezer ( as well as several in me).
     
  5. lapinrose

    lapinrose Lead commenter

    Both of us totally love Christmas Dinner, so I do go all out, with help from o/h, cooking a really fantastic meal, but as usual with just 2 of us,there's always too much so we feast for days on the remains. Presents are usually just a token gift, around £10 for each relative, maybe £30 for each other.
    I make a couple of hundred quid each year from Christmas cakes, but that's it.
     
  6. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    To be honest, lardylegs, I quite like doing it all. At least I know it'll all get done properly and it gives me that warm glow of satisfaction. [​IMG]
     
  7. More a case of each gender treating Xmas differently. I can admire how women do take care of things in time - but they do also never seem to relax even when all has been taken care of. Sort that and few can attack the women then.
    I, of course, will buy all my gifts late evening on the 24th. The only time shops have men only in their halls [​IMG]
     
  8. Can you still buy that? Seems an odd present![​IMG]

     
  9. I have a hope, some day, that people will suddenly realise the emperor is not wearing any clothes ie that it doesn't matter what you do and don't do, it matters what is right for you.

    I just don't do it.

    I know people who love it, and that's fine.

    What I don't get is people who seem to want it to be a chore.
     
  10. I quite agree lardy, and although I enjoy Christmas and even the run-up to the day itself, there is no over-spending and no frazzling either [​IMG]
    It is just another day with a big roast dinner to prepare, after all. The joy of it all is spoiled if we forget that. My Christmas is going to be a family time. Little has been spent on presents this year, and I have done my cards and decorated the house - early for a change! I feel a sense of calm and am enjoying the music and the lights...and the season generally.
    The young men get off the hook...the proper grown-ups (and my thoughtful daughter!) put everything in place to make it a good family time. Effort has to be made if you are entertaining folks, but it really shouldn't become a headache.
     
  11. Saw a stand-up comedian the other day, saying he does the same and the only place that's open is the all-night garage.
    His family were delighted with their presents of barbeque briquettes.
     
  12. Mrs_Frog

    Mrs_Frog New commenter

    I am not a big fan of the run up to Christmas, although the day is usually ok. Brings out the best and worst in people.
    B x
     
  13. GeeMarie

    GeeMarie New commenter

    Yes, yes and thrice yes.
    I know a woman, a lovely TA, who in the run up to any holiday enjoys listing all the hard work she has got to do. If one of us says something along the lines of 'I really have to decorate the blasted living room.' She will respond with a list as long as your arm of chores she has to do. Christmas is no different. 'Still have a couple of presents left to buy!' One person says. 'I still have ten people to buy for, decorations to put up, three Christmas dinners to cook and a lamb to slaughter for the festival...' Alright, maybe not the last one. But she always wants people to feel sorry for her and how much work she has to do. Mostly, we think 'Stop whining and delegate, then.'
    Otherwise she's a lovely person. I just don't get this 'I have sooo much more to do than you!' Mentality. I'm not jealous, if that's what you're going for...
     
  14. jubilee

    jubilee Star commenter

    I make far less of an effort now that there are no small children around and far less of an effort after a Xmas Day a few years ago.
    I'd done all the present buying and wrapping and had 6 members of Mr jubilee's extended family for the day. I was in the kitchen getting the meal sorted and re-joined everyone in the lounge for the present giving to find that they'd done all that in my absence and seemed not to have noticed that I wasn't there!
    This year Mr jubilee has retired and 3 weeks agoi handed him 10 cards (with envelopes ready addressed) for him to update his old schoolfriends/ relatives abroad about his new email address and retirement news etc. The rest of the cards were posted weeks ago and his ten are still not written.
     
  15. Christmas is so boring. The same old predictable shite every year.
    Presents - I don't like giving presents and I don't like receiving them. I'm an adult, earn enough money to provide for my family and have enough spare to buy the stuff I want myself which is hardly anything. Worrying that I have bought a **** present for someone is also something I don't want to spend my life doing
    Christmas dinner - horrible. Tasteless turkey with my least favourite vegetables and take-it-or-leave-it stuffing. Christmas pudding also vile
    Booze - I don't need an excuse thank you very much if I want to get pissed I can any time of the year
    Christmas decorations - what's the point? You're only going to have to take them down again 2 weeks later
    Christmas cards - who are you again? I don't care anyway
    Little baby jesus stories - I'm an atheist
    Weather - apalling
    Christmas crackers - Jesus wept
    Ho Ho Bloody Ho
    I'm a man
     
  16. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Is it "outstandingwinger" as in football or "whinger" as in complains a lot? [​IMG]
    You are certainly outstanding at that! [​IMG]
    You need a visit from the ghost of Christmas past!
    Bah humbug!
    Come on, admit it. You are getting a teensy bit excited about it [​IMG]
     
  17. kibosh

    kibosh Star commenter

    Competitive martyrs like to do this, they bring it all on themselves because they would be lost without their pity-pot.
     
  18. outstandingwinger - you're my husband, aren't you? [​IMG]
     
  19. PlymouthMaid

    PlymouthMaid Occasional commenter

    I do prefer the days between Boxing day and New Year as there is no pressure to perform then. As it it I am stressing a little about how to fit 11 round my 6 seater table for dinner and how to physically cook and serve so many. Will be ok in he end I guess but it does get a little stressy as I like things to be as nice as possible and without disaster in the kitchen. i dont stress about shopping at all tho, all done before end of November and supermarket delivering on Thursday which will no doubt mean a quick rethink of recipes when they substitute marscapone for cat food or something similar. Still as my Mum says 'so long as no-one dies, it'll be fine'.
     
  20. Unecessarily harsh. I saw nothing which should have provoked that, whether Christmas is your thing or not...
     

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