My partner and I have been together 4 years, get on really well have been saving for a mortgage for 2 years and we are almost there! Both quite layed back, love each other very much and work hard in our careers! Aim to buy a house towards end of year. Admit to feel a bit miffed about certain family situations currently happening. My brother and his new girlfriend, been together almost 1 year. She has come out of a 10year relationship and met my brother straight away. New girlfriend appeared to be quite nice to begin with and partner and I have tried hard with her. Trouble is the centre of her universe is herself and she is quite self centred and only really talks about herself and what her and my bro are doing....When we all get together as a family she is centre of attention and wants to be heard all the time and I find my Mum does pander to her and doesn’t want to upset her (she has mentioned she has noticed what I have seen as well though!!).The girlfriend is taking exams at the moment and I have never heard so much discussion around this. I do appreciate she is working hard for these and respect this but it seems this has taken over her and my bros life. Last year my partner and I both got promoted in our jobs, I was very proud to be promoted as had wanted the job for a long time. I didn’t make a huge fuss about it but I was very nervous for interview and got the job! I was so pleased and my partner also got promoted in his job to . Obviously parents proud of us but we kept it quite low key. The thing which hurts is that my Mum didn’t really tell any of my family, they found out as I told them a few months later myself. But the thing which also hurts is that my partner and I didn’t really get any kind of recognition..... But this new girlfriend who is taking her exams gets a good luck card and bottle of champers for her and my bro when she finishes.....My mum got us to sign her card today, I just put good luck and we signed our names. My partner and I went round to parents yesterday for a bbq. My bro and gf couldn’t make it as gf has exams to revise for plus my bro plays on the "cost" of petrol to get to them- fair enough! My parent’s compromise and offer to go to them and take them out for a meal instead- they agree to this. Yesterday at bbq they role up to see my parents, atmosphere changes and they are talking in kitchen about something- as usual she dominates conversation.....we are left on our own for ages and both feel kind of relegated!! We both sense gf is quite rude to us and for some reason has become a bit snobby and acts like she is better than us, she does slip in quite a few rude remarks now and again and I find her uncomfortable to talk to at times but do try to get along with her when I see her! We go in to see where everyone is and turns out they want to buy a shared ownership place and wants parent’s money for a deposit!!!! This is typical of my bro he only really visits when wants something (Mum also commented on this). Parents also lent my bro £5000 earlier in year for a brand new car for which he pays back £100 a month..... But this hasn’t stopped him booking a Caribbean holiday in September! I just feel miffed as they both seem to get treated quite differently to me and my partner, I am keen to say something but want to think this through before I steam in. We are both happy to save for our own mortgage but the issue is more about how we are treated and how this new gf seems to be pandered to.