My partner (male) and I have been together for three years (on and off). He is a big built guy, plays rugby so has always been around 13 stone. He had a knee injury six months ago and has had to stop playing rugby although he still goes training once a week. He has put on quite a bit of weight, I didn't notice until we were in bed the other night (I am v. embarassed to even write it) and I was finding it hard to breathe with his weight on me. I just switched position and it was OK but it's happened again since obviously, and I think I almost pulled a muscle trying to move with him. I tactfully suggested that he could take a bit more weight off me and he got all huffy and said he thought I liked it and if I didn't why didn't I say so before now. I stupidly said that I did but the problem was that he had put on so much weight, over a stone as it turned out. He was not happy at all and said if he ever made a comment about not fancying me because I got fat, I would think he was a b*£$%*&. He hasn't exactly been avoiding sex since but it's there between us now and I don't know how to make it right. I've been staying at my friend's house this weekend and it feels like a relief to not have to think about having sex with him ata ll.