My daughter (six, pure sunshine) has recently started some conversations about death and dying. My father in law died a couple of years ago, and it's clearly been bubbling away in her mind. At the time she asked if everyone dies (specifically, me, mummy and herself). She appeared to come to terms with our answers. We've always encouraged her to ask any question she likes, and she'll raise some pretty deep stuff (along with the really important stuff like why are unicorns so rare)? Recently she has been coming home from school saying things like 'Jesus is my friend'. She's also linked this to the death questions. I'm hugely unhappy about the school proselytising. They have no business trying to infect minds with religion. Telling people that have not developed critical faculties outright lies is just wrong. But, what if it helps deal with the huge question of death when she's small and vulnerable? I'm trying to work out if the risk of the virus sticking is worth the comfort it might bring my beautiful little girl now. There is no doubt to me that religion is a negative. It has serious consequences for the rest of ones life. But then again plenty of people develop immunity later, and is it any different to the Santa Claus schtick? Or maybe the reason we tell fluffy lies like that is because it allows us to believe the big lies (truth, honesty is best, people are mostly good). I'm burbling because I have to work out what to do. I'm going to be speaking with the head in a few days, and I need to decide whether to gently but firmly tell him to tell the teacher to lay off the religion or go nuclear.