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Dear Tom

Discussion in 'Behaviour' started by e.waddington, May 16, 2011.

  1. e.waddington

    e.waddington New commenter

    I am doing my NQT year at a school that is very large and 99.9% asian. My first class have been very challenging and I have found behaviour management very hard. The children don't have any respect for adults and do what they want. They are only 5! I also have a child with possible asperges who can be quite violent at times.
    I have tried smiley face boards, stars, stickers, praise, marbles, missing playtimes, missing choosing, time out - nothing seems to work!
    Please help me get some respect in the class room!
  2. Tom_Bennett

    Tom_Bennett Occasional commenter

    Hello EW
    Finding your first class challenging is a state of affairs normally described as 'to be expected', never fear. They're bound not to have respect for a new adult figure, unless they've been tremendously well drilled before they met you, so this kind of behaviour is going to take time. I don't respect anyone I've just met (unless it's Morgan Freeman or the man that spanners Piers Morgan), and I don't expect strangers to respect me. What I do expect is manners- and that's far more achievable.
    Al the strategies you describe- the praise, the rewards, the sanctions, the discipline- they all sound fine to me. The missing ingredient is TIME. It all takes time to get these kids to come round.
    Another magic ingredient is consistency: do you punish and reward consistently? Are you rigorous, or do you let things slide when you';re tired, feeling soft, etc? Kids can smell woolliness. Seriously- if you keep up your range of strategies, treat them fairly, but be tougher rather than softer with them for a while, then they will come round to you eventually. It seems like it's not working- it is. It is.
    The violent child needs to be instantly isolated the moment he crosses the line. Have him evaluated by the ED Psych to establish any diagnosis; in the mean time, watch him carefully, for his own good and others- make the rules clear to everyone in the class (including him), and apply exactly the same sanctions and rewards that every one else gets. Hopefully he'll be within the range of aspergers that can be dealt with in a mainstream setting. But if he isn't then he needs specialist support ASAP.
    Very good luck to you.
    PS Not sure the ethnicity has any significance. Perhaps I missed your point.
    PPS Marbles?
  3. Tom_Bennett

    Tom_Bennett Occasional commenter

    Ah! Now I understand- I thought you might have been alluding to an EAL issue. If they have Madrasah as well as mainstream schooling, then I still wouldn't let that act as an excuse to act up; I mean, we all work hard, but I don't tell my Head to go take a jump :)

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