I work in a private British school in Spain which my son who has just turned 4 also attends. He is a great kid but I know better than anyone he is hard work, sometimes its like he is bouncing off the walls. Recently I have noticed that when he is out on the play ground he always finds it hard to initiate playing with his friends, he asks me or his teacher if we can ask his friends if they want to play with him. I mentioned it to his teacher and she said she had noticed it but he is fin in class. About 3 months ago he was put on a behaviour report because he was hitting quit a lot which I'm pleased to say he has now grown out and is now able to express his emotions more appropriately. He is still on the behaviour report as his teacher says she is finding it difficult getting him to listen to her when its time to do things. Last week and this week he seemed to have improved a lot as his chart was giving him some really good days so I was most upset on Thursday when he had had a really bad day especially since his teacher hadn't mentioned anything in particular. On Friday he was very naughty, he wee'd in the toilet bin to make his friends laugh. This is when I found out that the day before he had stood on the urinals. I was very upset as this kind of behaviour is not like him, its difficult to get his to listen and he finds it hard to sit still and is into everything but he knows that this behaviour is wrong. This happened at morning break and his teacher told me that she was going to talk to the head teacher about him then at lunch time once he had finished eating in the dining room at 12:45 he was taken up to the head teacher, who was still in a lesson until 1 and was spoken too, then had to sit on the floor till 1 when he had to then go with her to the dining room where she was on duty till 1:30 and sit crossed legged on the floor till she was finished then went with her to the office where he had to sit until 2pm when lunch break was over. That's a hour and a quarter sat on the floor crossed legged with nothing to do for a child that is 4 years 3 months old. I think this is an unacceptable amount of time for any 4 year old. I am extremely upset about this, more so than him as I'm sure he forgot why he was there after all that time, and would like your advice and opinion on the matter. He isn't a confident child which seems to be getting slightly worse than better as he is scared of everything so I would like to find a way to manage his behaviour without crushing his spirit and great personality.