Now you're twisting what I said. I didn't demand anything. I was unsure about the reason why you thought the note should be kept and asked why. I thought i asked politely: "I'm intrigued as to what offence Ray thinks the police could investigate with the note. (Rape or murder?) Apologies for the flippant bad taste but could you explain please, Ray." For you to say me asking 'could you explain please, Ray' is demanding anything is stretching it a bit. I wasn't sure what offence could be investigated so I asked (politely) that's all. No demands. On re-reading I think I asked a fair question. You were very vague: "The manager's decision was wrong. The note should have been kept. It may have become evidence in a criminal prosecution." as you didn't mention what offence the police would be using the note as evidence for. Hence me asking what offence you thought the note was evidence of. Given what you said and what I asked (and how I asked it, ie politely) I think post 121 is unnecessarily personal. Also, from 121: "I did NOT say that it could initiate a criminal investigation as it stands." I never said it could - I wondered how it could be useful, for what offence. (You didn't twist what I said, just misunderstood. But you got it wrong). "Please, please, dear Gary, think carefully about what I say before you waste my time again. I am tired of having to reply to you and explain what I did NOT say all the time." Okay. But if you were clearer to start with (eg in explaining what offence the note could be used to investigate) you wouldn't need to clarify. Try and be clearer, please? Worth a try? " Indeed, other posters said it should have been taken to the police, I did not, yet Gary points that finger at me. Perverse. I think I have a right to ask him to stop doing that." I think that's a good example of misrepresenting what has happened! One other poster suggested going to the police (Frankie), which I said was the wrong thing to do as it was clear. No misunderstanding there as IMO it's not a 'violent incident.' I was intrigued by Ray's reason for keeping the note, so asked. Why is that pointing a finger? You have a right to stop me asking for clarification (esp if on a subject I have knowledge about) if you are vague, or I don't know what you mean? Does that apply to Jennqt to? Can she ask for clarification if she doesn't understand something? Or is it just me who's not allowed to ask polite questions when you are vague about something. No idea what this means. Doesn't seem to have any bearing or relevence to anything I've said about the note. As I'm not allowed to ask, even politely, does anyone know what this means? Please? Sorry to divert the thread, but if I'm going to be so wilfully misrepresented I'm going to reply to what I think are unfair accusations.