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Dear Theo-When your extra efforts just dont count

Discussion in 'Jobseekers' started by b15b2y, Jul 13, 2012.

  1. b15b2y

    b15b2y New commenter

    <font face="Times New Roman">Dear Theo, and anyone else.
    The mix of emotions I am feeling at the emotion is horrendous. I had an interview for a middle management position I have been pretty much doing all year, and put myself forward for anything else related to the role that I could this year, knowing that a vacancy would come up and I wanted to be able to prove myself.
    The interview itself went well I have been told, but apparently not well enough, as the other (internal) candidate got the job. Apparently only the interview itself counted, and all the extra work, extra responsibility, endless long hours counted for nothing.
    To add to this, I know of so many issues that should make the other candidate discredited. Complaints from parents, poor work ethic, and very much unliked by other staff. These sentiments are echoed by everyone I speak to.
    How does anyone make it through yet another year having to witness all this? I am already dreading September.
  2. TheoGriff

    TheoGriff Star commenter

    Oh dearie dearie me!
    Of course you feel disappointed, and let down, and possibly bitter, and have lots of horrid emotions churning around inside you.
    I feel really sorry for how bad you must be feeling, and I bet everyone else joins me in saying that we hope you feel better able to face the school very soon.
    Did you actually spell this out in the interview - all your past contributions? It is always a good idea to have ready three or so points that you want to get across to the panel, things that make you the right person for the job, and make sure that you say them. That could make it clear to them.
    Oh dear! Oh dear dear dear!
    It is very understandable that you feel aggrieved, and can see the negatives about the other person, but please do not not NOT speak them aloud to other colleagues. They may agree to your face, but behind your back they just might think that you are being non-professional in speaking in this way, despite your disappointment. And it might well get back to the successful candidate that you are bad-mnouthing, and get to the ears of SLT and scupper your chances of promotion in the future.
    This is my advice.
    On Saturday,go and buy a Congratulations card. Think of some nice wording to put inside about working together next year. Give it to the person on Monday, saying that you were obviously disappointed that you were not successful yourself, but are now looking towards the next academic year and co-operating for the benefit of the students. Wish him/her a very happy summer holiday, and repeat that you will be happy to support in their new role.
    You'll feel much better when you've done that.
    Best wishes
    TheoGriff. Member of the TES Careers Advice Service.
    For the full TES Weekend Workshop programme click here or contact Julia on advice@tes.co.uk for one-to-one sessions
  3. catbefriender

    catbefriender Lead commenter

    Theo's right there is a lot of New Age philosophy that talks about letting go of anger and resentment and freeing yourself of past hurts and expressing forgiveness and thanks for all you have which will generate positive vibes in EVERY aspect of your life.
    There is also a lot of nonsense about talking to trees and blessing your postman for bringing you messages from loved ones (??) and thanking your bed every morning for having given you a good night's sleep etc.
    Best wishes
  4. scienceteacha

    scienceteacha New commenter

    To put my Mr Cynical hat on, I reckon half of these positions are gained through discussions at THAT pub on a Friday evening or THAT fag break one Tuesday lunchtime. In other words, if you want that job, join the Head and their cronies down the pub or the fag shed.

    When the meek inherit the Earth the decent amongst us will triumph.
  5. Middlemarch

    Middlemarch Star commenter

    My staff would always have had a lot of difficulty doing that, given that I haven't been to the pub after school for over 20 years, never as a headteacher. I've never socialised with staff outside school. And I don't smoke.
    Most (if not all) heads want to keep their own jobs so much they tend to appoint the person they think will do the best job to any specific vacancy, finding that this works better than appointing people just because they smoke or go to the pub.
  6. What Theo said.Despite all the justification you rightly (and perhaps some of it is heightened by your understandable disappointment) feel.

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