I am a new headteacher, with a new chair of governors and I am finding establishing the right kind of relationship very difficult. My new CoG has done various things over the last term including: Giving another governor responsibility for specific area of school without discussing with me first. Asking teachers in school what they thought of my performance so far without my knowledge before my performance management! Then reading out verbatim extracts from my PM statement in a FG body meeting without consulting me. When I have tackled these things in the past, I am always quoted that they have checked with Governace or the Chair. But what I am looking for is more consultation, a dialogue about these things. This time my CoG has made changes to a school policy and wanted to send it out to govs without letting me see it first. When I asked to see it, everything deteriorated very quickly. Again I was quoted that is was good practice for govs to see policies before meetings, but all I wanted was to see what my CoG had done before they did. (By the way, originally I had simply asked for a review of this policy to be included on the agenda, not for the CoG to make any changes themselves). My CoG became very defensive and feels I have been unfair in my attempts to tackle this situation and that I am being unreasonable and patronising in my manner. Maybe my patience is running out! I have apologised if it had seemed that way - explained how much I value them and just want to work together. That is not good enough though and now they are refusing to take my calls and planning to resign as Chair as a result of all this!!! I had not intended any of this at all - I just want to be consulted before my CoG makes those kinds of decisions. Am I in the wrong here? Clarity about roles of Chair are not specific enough to cover this type of situation in the guide to the law. Maybe my CoG does have the right to do all those things.......?????? But surely it is just good manners to discuss things before hand? I really do want a good relationship , but not sure how to move forward here as things have reached a crisis. Any help gratefully received.