Hello all, I used to be a regular poster but under another name. I apologise but I would rather not be recognised but was hoping for some advice. I've had an ok Christmas and today broached the subjectof booking a holiday in the new year. My OH didn't seem very up for the idea but I guessed perhaps the time was wrong to ask. Anyway I had assumed that we would go away during the holidays in the summer to the house he owns. Last year we took our daughter and his 3 older kids. I bought our flights and he bought the kids and also paid for his ex partner to fly out after us so his kids could have an extended holiday with their mum. He paid all spending money for them and we went halves for the time we were there. Anyway today our little girl had an almighty tantrum in a town centre (she's hard work but I'm sure it's just a toddler stage) we came home early at his suggestion and I thought I would mention buying the flights again as a way if cheering him up. He then said he wasn't bothered and that he would rather not go anywhere because our little girl has tantrums and basically hinted he hated our last holiday because she was hard work. Yesterday he told his previous partner to arrange flights for her and their kids and that he would pay. It seems like I'm not entitled to a holiday even though I pay. More worryingly though is how he feels about our daughter. I never realised he disliked her so much. He said she's hard work and his other kids were never like that. I feel absolutely crushed. She's my only child so I have nothing to compare her too and she is stubborn and willful but she's also only 3. I said I want to take her away somewhere otherwise she doesn't get a break and I'm off for 6 weeks. He said to take her on my own if I wanted because it's not a holiday for him - even though I do everything for her. I'm gutted. He's asleep now but I need to talk to him when he wakes up. What would you say if you were me?