My grandma, a lovely lady, lived with us for a few years, and on that basis my dad said he would never live with any of us when he got old because it was too hard having an old person living with you, even an easy one like my grandma. But now he is miserable in his care home. In truth none of us could look after him as he needs too much care, but I wish we could find somewhere more suited to him. Money's not an issue, but there just doesn't seem anywhere providing what would suit him. He doesn't want fancy and posh, which is all you seem to get if you pay more. He wants somewhere that's more like living in his own house, where he can choose more things. Of course he can't remember that when he was living in his own house he was also miserable and lonely and worried. And he always looks on the bad side of things rather than appreciating the nice things. It's so hard.