Hiya, I hope that no-one minds me asking this after I've not really contributed to anything else in aagggges, I would appreciate some objective viewpoints from people who don't know me. I will try to keep it under my usual million words though. Have suffered from a bit of a lack of confidence all my life, is irritating and debilitating (although it may just be that I'm rubbish, I'm never quite sure). It comes and goes but a few years ago I thought I'd cracked it and was generally pretty happy with myself and the way that I interacted with people and so on. Anyhoo, long story short for those that don't know, got pregnant by accident, got faffed about by father of my child (to my shame, as I was always aware that he was a bit of a waste of space) ended up moving in to lodge with my Grandad for a year, had the marvellous Yoghurt Lite and have just moved out again into the big wide world, which is indescribably great. Confidence is shot to pieces, though. Oddly enough, my self-esteem is probably a lot better than it's ever been (I can move house by myself with a nine-month-old baby in tow, I'm Superwoman) but I still feel charmless and socially inept. And honestly, given the choice I'd probably rather be charming and socially ept than tough, brave and good because those people seem to sleazle their way out of anything difficult. I'm now at the point where shopkeepers scare me a bit. This is not the attitude with which to move to a new area and begin a new phase of life. I have a few lovely other-mummy friends but otherwise friendship group has fallen to bits rather - partly, if I'm honest, because I was probably quite tiresome in my affliction. Pre-baby I would've probably have joined something or volunteered and ridden out the inevitable awkward bit at the beginning where I acted like a fool out of nervousness, but now I have time-and-money constraints and can't really do that. Mother-and-baby groups only seem to operate in term-time here but besides, I'm always worried that I initially come across as Someone You Wouldn't Want Near Your Child. Does anyone know the solution, preferably one that you can do at home by yourself without spending any money (possibly by talking to yourself in the mirror)? I keep thinking that there's a magic trick to feeling comfortable in your own skin and confident to approach people and make friends. If there is, please could someone reveal it to me?