When I go to my Dad's house, he has loads of cards up from people who he has known over the years. People who he has known from 20 to 30 years ago. However - the only time he hears from them is at Christmas and it's either a quick note in the card or a round Robin letter. He will never hear from many of them ever again except till next Christmas and won't speak or contact them. It's a bit like they're Facebook friends who you don't really see but still keep informed. I have some friends but not many - but I know I will speak to them and see them during the year. I can speak to them about issues I have and ask for advice. That's what I call a friend. I write very few cards - and receive very few cards but the ones I do get are from people who are important to me. I sort of can't see the point in getting and writing cards from people who you've known in the past but will probably never see again. Am I missing something? You are not a "friend" - maybe you were in the past but now you are somebody on a Christmas Card list. Is that such a bad thing? Am I just being a very cynical person and should enjoy the fact that my Dad is on so many people's Christmas card lists?