I currently work in a small school where my wife is the head teacher and I am the Senior Teacher. I am looking to apply for Deputy and Assistant head posts but cannot give my wife as a referee! I currently have the Chair of Governors and the LA General Advisor as my referees. Are these the most appropriate people for me to ask to provide references or do you have any other suggestions? Also, as our school community is a small one and I do not want the children and parents to be unsettled until I am in a position to tell them what new challenge I am moving on to, I do not want references taken up at the application stage of the appointment process. Am I able to ask the school not to take up my references until later?