So if there is a policy which itemises appropriate contact and makes clear which behaviour could be misinterpreted then this would be supportive information. I am going to give you an example of a scenario I have encountered in more than one setting. NN continues to fondle and fuss Samantha's hair during whole class time . Samantha has not asked for this to happen but seems to be enjoy it . NN puts Smantha on her lap to further fiddle with hair as it is easier to "groom " her hair this way. Sam is a child who functions well in the classroom and is independent. NN ignores behaviour of more demanding children in the class. This pattern continues over a week or so. Samantha starts to expect physical contact with NN who encourages her to sit on her lap. If teacher asks NN to move elsewhere to break up this pattern, Samantha starts to weep and NN then puts her on her lap to comfort her and claims she cannot leave her. Teacher speaks with NN who claims that physical contact is essential in childcare using all the valid arguments that have been give here. To me the above example is very different to the child sponateously jumping up on lap or the passing hug intitiated by the child. NNs behaviour is not abusive but the need for physical contact is coming from her not the child. If there were a policy about appropraite physical contact wouldn't that be easier for all concerned ?