Hello guys I was hoping you could offer some advice - you've been great in the past. Sorry for the long post. I have been teaching a long time. I started in my mid twenties (college and secondary) and at that time I was a different person. I was stronger mentally and physically. Now I'm in my late 40s and I am tired, miserable and fed up. In every single class there is always a core group of pupils or students who play up, mess around or are downright rude. They really do affect me (and over the years it has gotten worse) . I dread these classes. Friends, family and colleagues tell me that I need to remember and focus on the good kids. But if I'm honest with myself, these kids affect me a lot. I am a sensitive person and genuinely love helping people. Throughout my life I've put others first. I hate confrontations and so if I need to resolve issues I always talk things through or give in. But I am now in a college teaching students that fill me with drread. What upsets me is that the troublemakers have a way of making even the good kids misbehave. These are English resit students and so are forced to attend. Some of them are really belligerent and talk during quiet activities. When I show my annoyance they'll argue and stop for a while but then carry on. I don't shout or let them think I am affected by them (I repeat myself firmly and remind them of their end goal) and I think that helps a lot (years of teaching experience has taught me that they're trying to get a rise out of me). What makes me feel sad is the fact that most of them are 18 and I didn't expect Yr 9 behaviour from them. I have tried to make excuses for them and tried to see the good in them but some of them have drained all my goodwill. They seem to thrive on conflict and being mean. After the lessons I feel low - and this feeling stays with me and my poor family can see I am distracted. My family life is great and I have great friends and fantastic colleagues. It's only work/challenging students that make me miserable. I was wondering if there was a way of making myself not care what these students say or do? I know I am responsible for my own happiness and I can control what affects me. So what can I do on a practical level? My brain seems hardwired to worry about the naughty kids. How do I develop a thick skin? I am wiling to try anything - a mantra, hypnosis, anything! What about meditation? What has helped you? I would be grateful for any advice. I love the good kids. I love the moody ones too because they get on with the work but are never nasty to me.. I want to stay in this college but I am seriously thinking of leaving because of the kids who are challenging. I don't like the sick feeling I get before the lesson. I do wonder why I give them that importance. But I suppose its because I worry about them playing up during lesson observations and influencing the other kids. I am at a stage in my life where I just want to be happy. I want to give the best of me to my family. I don't want to feel anxious all the time - life is too short. Don't get me wrong - I know life has its challenges but this anxiety is constant and crippling and I am worried it'll affect my mental health. Thank you for reading this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.