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Cancer thread for patients, ex-patients and their long-suffering and hard-working family and friends

Discussion in 'Personal' started by grumpydogwoman, Sep 19, 2019.

  1. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Any advice or encouragement, please?

    Found out Tuesday my bad bowel problems aren't actually a colonic issue. It's ovarian cancer. I have the hugely swollen belly to go with it and am going in for a tap tomorrow. Breathing is SO hard. So I've read enough to realise it's stage 3 or 4. I have a pelvic mass that was found on the MRI we paid for ourselves.

    Good news is I can go to a Birmingham hospital and they have one of the best survival rates in the country but I'm having a CT scan on Wednesday and obviously no date to be admitted or any ideas if I'll be offered surgery and chemo.

    So. Anyone got any positive stories? Bit of encouragement? Or shall I start giving my stuff away right now? Ta muchly!
  2. Jesmond12

    Jesmond12 Star commenter

    I clicked on the thread anyway.

    I can’t give you any advice unfortunately but I can give you my best wishes and I hope that things go well for you.

    Stay strong. (Heart emoji)
  3. TheOracleAtDelphi

    TheOracleAtDelphi Occasional commenter

    I don't have any stories but I just wanted to say I was thinking of you. Treatment regimes are so much more effective these days. I hope the hospital will sort you out with some speedy treatment.
  4. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    Not a lay-dee but that doesn't stop me from expressing the hope that you are returned to full health in the course of time.

    You will be in the thoughts of many of us.
  5. primarycat

    primarycat Star commenter

    Really sorry to hear this. My ex-colleague was diagnosed in 2009 or so. She's fought and campaigned for her medication but she's still doing well despite several rounds of chemo and I've seen a few glamorous beach pictures of her on holiday over the years. She has bad bouts but a decent quality of life overall and she's still here.

    Thinking of you.
  6. Jude Fawley

    Jude Fawley Star commenter

    You have a cradle of support here. We won't let you fall.
  7. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Lots of loveliness! That's doing me good already!
  8. BertieBassett2

    BertieBassett2 Star commenter

    Oh goodness- sorry to hear this, Grumpy - related in your usual upbeat way as well! Wishing you good luck for next week and do keep us informed. Hugs, paws and purrs.
  9. frangipani123

    frangipani123 Lead commenter

    Very sorry to read this. I don't personally know anyone who has had it. My cousin had Stage 4 breast cancer many, many years ago and swears by the book by Jane Plant, Your Life in Your Hands (discusses ovarian cancer too). I'm guessing that you'll be going to the QE, so will be in good hands. Treatment is improving all the time.

    You've supported many people here over the years, so you know you'll be supported here yourself now.
  10. Brunel

    Brunel Senior commenter

    Sorry to read your bad news. As someone on the other side of the fence as it were (with a cancer that lay-deez don’t get) I can say that chemo hasn’t been nearly as bad as I expected. And that I’ve been impressed with the care provided by the NHS.
    Best wishes.
  11. sparklepig2002

    sparklepig2002 Star commenter

    No experience I'm afraid but didn't want to read and run.
    I am sorry to read your news. Thinking of you.
  12. Laphroig

    Laphroig Lead commenter

    No advice or experience just love and hugs.
  13. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Bloody hell, grumpy! So very sorry to hear this!

    Stop googling - it does no good and just scares the life out of you. The Macmillan website is the one to look at, if any.

    I absolutely know the hell you're going through, because we're on a similar journey chez moi (Mr D, not me). Fortunately, the prognosis is very good. Fingers crossed...

    There's lots they can do, grumpy. Your sense of humour will help you, without a doubt. We'll all be cheering you on, my love.

    Rant and rave on here. We're ready for it. Xxx
  14. HelenREMfan

    HelenREMfan Star commenter

    From what I know recently the surgeons and staff at B’ham are amazing.....so you will be in very good hands and dealt with quickly if need be. Remember you don’t always have to be strong on here so wail and do whatever else you need to do and know you will be thought of and supported. Just remember to shout out if you need!
    I know you don’t do hugs but you can’t avoid a virtual one!
  15. digoryvenn

    digoryvenn Lead commenter

    Oh grumpy, I am so very sorry to hear this.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    We are all here to support you.
  16. Doitforfree

    Doitforfree Star commenter

    So sorry to hear this, but you're our GDW and we're unlikely to let you go any time soon.:D:D Hope everything goes to plan tomorrow. Keep us posted. Hugs, hugs and more hugs.
  17. eleanorms

    eleanorms Occasional commenter

    My mum had OC 9 years ago. Had fairly radical surgery but no chemo and is hale and hearty to this day. Remember the consultant saying to her at discharge not to overdo things. No heavy gardening or housework. Maybe just a little light dusting would be OK. That's strange, I said to her, because I don't think you ever did a single stroke of dusting heavy or light before you got ill. Really important not to panic. Bad swelling with her was a sign of fluid, and fluid often means a lower grade tumour. Wishing you all the best.
  18. Sundaytrekker

    Sundaytrekker Star commenter

    I can’t add anything more except my good wishes to everyone else’s. I hope they find some good treatment for you.

    We’re here. Any time you want.
  19. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    Sorry to read this, and wishing you well. You have given positive support to many of us.
    Treatments are improving. I have had chemo. It was unpleasant at times, but means I'm still here.
    Good luck.
  20. hplovegame48

    hplovegame48 New commenter

    All I can say is I'm thinking of you. And fight all the way.

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