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Bullied, judged and feeling very low...

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by Brunettegirl, Jan 22, 2016.

  1. Brunettegirl

    Brunettegirl Occasional commenter

    Well..that says it all really. Can anybody commiserate? I'd rather PM as it's an ugly situation which doesn't need to be aired in public..Thanks.
  2. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    I know you must feel awful. You are not alone in this. That's of no help to you really.

    Nor will it help much if I tell you it's "nothing personal". I won't PM you because I'm retired now and have no direct experience of this. But this forum essentially exists exclusively for these rotten situations so there'll be a useful person along soon to give you more practical support.
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  3. Compassman

    Compassman Star commenter

    The thing is that these schools should be named and shamed.

    OK I realise that individuals would find it difficult as they often need a reference but there should be some way of exposing these awful places.
  4. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    Look for the good things that have happened in your career. Look for good things in the rest of your life.
    I have just become reacquainted with a former pupil who was in what at the time seemed like a dreadful class. They were hard work, but the school at that time trusted me, gave me the contact time, I won most of them round to sociability and working on science. Later on, doing such things was insufficient, I got stressed and lost the resilience to do that.
    I've regained my self esteem since leaving the treadmill. Having some life outside school helped.
  5. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

  6. Brunettegirl

    Brunettegirl Occasional commenter

    Thank you for the reply.. Much appreciated.
  7. Brunettegirl

    Brunettegirl Occasional commenter

    I know. Most people are in an impossible position though.
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  8. johnberyl

    johnberyl Occasional commenter

    I totally agree with you. It is the secrecy surrounding this issue which is perpetuating it.
  9. ValentinoRossi

    ValentinoRossi Star commenter

    Commiserations, OP.

    Someone who doesn't even know me told me today that I am "unprofessional and c r a p. Shall we start a club? I'm sure there would be potential members queuing up!

    Talk to people who value you. Remind yourself of the reasons you went into teaching. Stick by your principles. It would be great if we could succeed 100% every moment of every day. But we can't - thank goodness. Because then we'd be robots, not human.

    I know how difficult it is not to take things personally. In fact, it's well nigh impossible! That's why it is so important to have a mental attitude where you can put the s*** out of your mind and enjoy what is really important x
  10. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    They said WHAT???!!!
  11. ValentinoRossi

    ValentinoRossi Star commenter

    Yeah, they said that. Thiry-five years experience of teaching and in all of that time I have never, ever spoken to anyone like that. In front of other colleagues, too. However, I have the hide of a rhinoceros when it comes to dealing with idiots.
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  12. andrew07

    andrew07 Occasional commenter

    You know its funny. I was told that by a History trainee teacher where i was doing a two month History cover.
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  13. mseerie

    mseerie New commenter

    Wouldn't it be great if someone created a naughty website for teachers to anonymously review the quality of their schools as workplaces? There are similar tools for other jobs... wouldn't we all have something to gain from this?
    petenewton likes this.
  14. ilovepoppies

    ilovepoppies New commenter

  15. ilovepoppies

    ilovepoppies New commenter

    That's outrageous, Val, I hope you gave the bar steward a steely glare of absolute disdain x
  16. ValentinoRossi

    ValentinoRossi Star commenter

    I smiled at her :)
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  17. JRiley1

    JRiley1 Established commenter

    A friend of mine was told by her head that if she could throw away her books she would, in her view they're inadequate....main problem apparently? Handwriting; I've seen these books & they are fine, the world has gone mad!
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  18. Lara mfl 05

    Lara mfl 05 Star commenter

    Congratulations on being so restrained Val! :D
    Sometimes 'being the better man/woman' says it all!;)
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  19. Jolly_Roger1

    Jolly_Roger1 Star commenter

    We older, more experienced teachers were referred to by our then new Executive Head as 'dinosaurs' to which he would be like the 'meteorite that hastened our demise'. (@lanokia would appreciate a simile like this)
    petenewton, Lara mfl 05 and lanokia like this.
  20. lanokia

    lanokia Star commenter

    He did indeed @Jolly_Roger1

    Just yesterday I sat around with my new colleagues and we shared horror stories from previous schools... turns out my 'horror story' was in no way the worst... some truly awful places out there to work.
    Lara mfl 05 likes this.

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