I'm have a younger brother who is really causing me some distress at the moment. My husband and I always make the effort to be polite to him and wife at family events and when we see them. I find that as long as you talk to,them about what they want and listen to all their news you are fine....... However how long do you let this go on for!? My brother rarely asks us about our lives, he has no interest- feels very one sided. He treats my parents poorly to, they have noticed this as have spoken to me about it. When my Dad was 60 we organised him a party, my husband and I made sure we gave my Mum lots of help and made the occasion as special as we could. On the day of the 60th my brother didn't turn up early to help, there was lots to do as it was a garden party...... My husband and I were helping all week. I felt bad for my parents as he rolled up with all the other guests...... On my Mums 60th he didn't even get her a present. Mum being Mum said not to, however I think she was very shocked when he didn't get her anything, I only found this out last week but felt so sorry for my poor mum. Him and his wife are both complainer, my brother has moved jobs 6 times in last 2 years as doesn't get on with staff, wife isn't much better and the moves are never their fault. Could go on and on.... Sorry for so many typos!