Actually, I did follow his advice. I asked if it was okay by him if I asked for the day off - unpaid - so I could get there in time to support my friend (who is like a sister to me) on the morning of her wedding. He informed me that whilst he had no problems with it, the liklihood of it being agreed was nill and that I was better off just phoning in sick. Please do not call me unprofessional when you do not know me or the effort I put into my job. I'm unlucky enough to work in a school where requests like that are not granted - unless it is a close blood relative you have no hope of secudling a personal day, be it wedding or funeral - and I am not the first, and I will not be the last to do what I did. Maybe I shouldn't have followed my HoDs advice, and I am not recommending that the OP does, but I was giving my own experiences, like all the other posters had done so. Needless to say, I would have accepted being disciplined if I would have found out, but occasionally we have to put something other than teaching first, and as this was after I had put my job first when I really shouldn't have had, I think that the school and I are even. I am also looking for another job, because I do not want to work in the sort of school where I was put in the situation I was. Apologies OP for leading the thread somewhere else. I'm sure whatever you will do will be fine and enjoy being a bridesmaid.