Good evening tessers. Some people may be able to relate to this (I hope). I just feel I no longer have ANYTHING in common with my closest friends. They are now all married, all have kids. Don't get me wrong I love their kids and think it's wonderful they are so happy especially since some of them struggled to get there for various reasons. But I am single, not married, and childless. I have felt this way for a long time but being recently single and having just received an invite to one of the kids' 1st birthdays has not helped. The invite says parents and children to come together for a swim and party. I would feel completely like a lose part going with no child to take with me. Especially to swimming. So have bowed out graciously and said I will go and see them in the afternoon when they get home. The last of my 3 close friends had her baby the most recently and so up until then I guess I felt like I had an 'allie' but now most conversations are about babies and husbands and I can't contribute except to tell stories about when my sisters had kids. My Mum wants me settled down, I think she is worried I grow old alone and she will never see me settled. I'd love to settle down and have kids. Even though I tell people I am not sure about kids. I never thought I'd turn into one of those women pining after children but here I am. The sad part is I just can't see myself settling down. I was with my last bf for about a year and 3/4 and it went no where. the only other 'long' relationship I ever had was at 18 when I dated someone for 18 months. I just don't see myself 'with' someone ;long enough to settle down and would not want children on my own even though my sister has told me several times 'lots of people do it nowadays'. I don't really know what I want anyone to say to me. I just can't tell anyone I actually know (if you know what I mean) because I fear it will be so frowned upon.