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Binge drinking

Discussion in 'Personal' started by arcturus, Apr 24, 2011.

  1. I have a binge drinking problem.

    I am sick of waking up with missing memory or mortified at my behaviour, I am sick of injuring myself and not remembering how I did it. I always vow to stop but never do.

    Has anyone else kicked the habit of drinking until you fall over? Any tips?
     
  2. Self control. A sense of self esteem and respect for myself.
     
  3. I did this in my late teens but seem to have grown out of it now im in my mid twenties. I still drinking a stupid amount of wine, but I tend to do it at home with friends. I know exactly when I have hit my limit when I start to feel whoozy, and I hate not feeling in control and know Im going to feel ill the next day, so I just stop, drink a glass of water and go to bed.
    I dont think theres any tips, Ive just got to a point where Id rather quit while Im ahead and not put up with a hangover the next day.Its harder when we're out because of the lights and music, I seem to feel 'ok' even when im alot drunker.
     
  4. Don't buy it, don't have it at home. Change your socialising habits - do stuff that doesn't involve drinking - theatre, cinema, meals out, bowling, sport, join an evening class. Change your friends if all your friends do is drink. Don't give up completely just do other stuff as well. After a while I found I started to feel sorry for those friends of mine who wouldn't do anything that didn't involve falling down drunk.
    Good luck
     
  5. I don't really understand why it's so hard to stop. I understand that an alcoholic would have a problem with stopping drinking. Unless someone is forcing you to pour the drink down your neck the drink is totally within your control. Just drink less of it and you'll stop falling over, hurting yourself, forgetting what you've done etc won't you?
     
  6. What you have all said is right. I do have a circle of friends that drink a lot but that doesn't mean that I have to. I struggle in social situations sometimes and I think I use the drink to get over that but it still doesn't mean I need to be wasted. I need to grow up a bit I think.
     
  7. I used to be the same, arcturus. None has never been a problem but as soon as I had a couple I'd be convinced that another would be an excellent idea. Normal judgement completely disappears. No recollection of how bad a night I'll have or how **** I'll feel the next day. All I can say is that it wore off as I got older. As the hideous embarrassments mounted up, and more importantly, the people I used to hang out with left/moved/stopped, the game just got less worth the candle.
    It's years since I drank to get drunk. I still get drunk because it takes so little but I am not around people who think it's hilarious and excusable anymore. I think I just needed more shame and disapproval in my life.
    I notice you say you struggle in social situations. I do too. I'm very shy and I find it hard to walk into a social gathering without a drink inside me. That won't get any better. I am apparently much more amusing and good guest value when I'm ****** so people press it on me. There is nothing entertaining about being sober when all your mates are drunk. My strategy for this is to drive to any event I'd rather not drink at. I may have a stiffener when I arrive but I know that's all I can have. The added advantage is that if everyone else gets ratarsed and irritating I can leave any time I want.
     
  8. Mangleworzle

    Mangleworzle Star commenter

    Do you drink before you go out? It seems to be a common thing with some young people these days, if so, then stop doing that, it shouldn't be so difficult.
    I think many of us have read this and to some degree thought "been there done that", it is part of growing up and learning how to handle alcohol.
    What do you drink? Find something that's less easy and takes more time to drink, I can get through units far faster on spirits and cocktails for instance than if I drink heavy beers such as real ales. Alternatively choose lower alcohol lagers so you're not being seen to drink more slowly if peer pressure is a problem.
    I have occasionally found myself out with people who drink more and faster than I want to, when it's my round I don't get myself a drink, I make my last one stretch to the next round, no one notices or is bothered and you don't a drink turning up anyway when you specifically asked not to have one.
    The real answer for me came though as I got older, I now just fall asleep before I can drink all that much.
     
  9. Milkandchalk

    Milkandchalk New commenter

    I used to be quite good at getting ratted, waking up the next day not remembering how or when I got home. After too many hangovers, my body seems to have developed this stop function. When I've had too much to drink, I literally cannot swallow anything else. This does make it difficult to have a pint of water and a couple of paracetamol before bed but it's cut down my hangovers significantly.
    Rule of thumb - if you can no longer feel your nose, it's time to stop.
     
  10. kibosh

    kibosh Star commenter

    I can relate to what other posters are saying here, especially Lilys (very honest) post.
    There are certain drinks i can no longer do, simply cos the 'ar.sehole' effect is more pronounced, lager being the main one. On occasion I can get very silly/floppy/stroppy on wine and also mixing drinks is a no no. Gin works best for me. I can dilute it with as much tonic as I like and still really enjoy the flavour. I know from experience that my internal moderator is much happier in the morning. For some strange reason, my small voice of reason stays quite active with gin.
    So it might be worth changing your tipple to something more manageable.
     
  11. I can relate too.... I used to be like that. I tend to stick to beer these days, as if I'm drinking I tend to speed up as the night goes on, so wine or spirits is completely out of the question for me usually..... I can drink wine/spirits at the same speed as I drink beer, so even at dinner parties, I take a bottle of wine for the host and beer for me! Beer makes me feel bloated after a while, so I slow down........Haven't embarrassed myself for years now.......
     
  12. The pay off if you stop/cut down is huge. I feel completely different in a good way. Life is so challenging why tip poison down your neck too?
     
  13. Because in the short term, it makes it seem altogether less challenging!
    I love a drink. It tastes nice and always makes me feel better. If I'm tense or unhappy it makes me feel better. If I'm happy it makes me feel even happier. I'm Lily the happy drunk, never arsy, violent or argumentative although frequently unwisely talkative and affectionate. It's my drug of choice. In fact it's the only one.
    But as my Dad used to say, when he wasn't saying "Beer is best", "it's a good servant but a bad master". If it's causing you problems, it really is best to just leave it alone, and sooner rather than later. If you binge drink it's because you're not a "take it or leave it" just-have-one-and-then-Coke person. You're already losing control.
    Far easier to have none. Just less fun.

     
  14. marmot.morveux

    marmot.morveux New commenter

    Yeah, stay away from drinks that are easy to drink.

    I always find if I eat whilst I'm out then go on to beer, it prevents me from drinking too much but that will depend upon you.
    MM
     
  15. I agree absolutely. I can easily have no alcohol. I am completely incapable of having just one. And very soon after that, I'm completely incapable.
     
  16. Start the evening with a pint of soda water ( I usually have soda with lime and loads of ice) then drink a pint of soda in between each drink. It will at least half your consumption. You will feel more in control by the end of the evening and also you won't get a hangover. The main draw back is MANY trips to the loo.

     
  17. Do you know what stops me from ordering any kind of non-alcoholic beverage in a pub? The price relative to alcohol.
     
  18. henriette

    henriette New commenter

    Hear hear
    we took the children to see their grandfather this week - lunch in the pub - round of drinks was £15 for 5 despite the fact that 3 were soft!!


     
  19. Drinking on a an empty stomach will scour your stomach lining out. Don't ever do it. You might get away with it now but you'll be plagued with ulcers when you're older.
    I have found that losing weight makes me drunk on less too but I suspect it might be because i eat less to make up for the alcohol calories.
     
  20. Richie Millions

    Richie Millions New commenter


    Were it this simple Poeme. Giving up drinking is as you say simple you just do not drink at all or as much. However the tricky part for addicts is understanding the psychological need for drink. This as PFF suggests can be much deeper rooted in perceptions of oneself and the strength of the need to escape from these. It is very hard to do this alone OP though the suggestions thus far are helpful. The key is a decision in your own mind to change which you seem to have reached.


    Total abstinence for many serious drinkers is the only solution. Do not be fooled, alcholics can easily give up drink for a few hours in some cases weeks or months. But if you drink to obliterate you do have a serious problem. Good luck in your recovery. Once there you will be astonished at how you used to behave. Take care x
     

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