Does anyone feel somewhat 'betrayed' by the messages we seemed to have received in our early years about how 'easy' pregnancy might be to achieve? We seemed to have received so many strong messages about 'avoiding pregnancy' in our teenage years that we assume pregnancy will be achieved exactly when we want it when we reach adulthood. Yet, clinically really we have only about a 30% chance in any one cycle to conceive, and technically the 'best' or optimum time biologically to have a child is actually early in our lives (20-24 years old). Obviously many have successful pregnancies even past 35, but these are the clinical 'facts'. Many do conceive easily and quickly, but it is quite common for it to take months and months and sometimes a year or two. Many of us feel surprised at this. Indeed, many will find that GPs will simply say 'you are only considered to have a fertility problem if you've been trying over two years' - which puts things in perspective a bit and is an admission that it can be quite normal for it to take months and months!