Let me start again. I accidentally sent half a post... I need advice. My much loved mother died on Sunday evening. I am in shock. A week before her death I nagged her for not eating enough. The following week she died after a rapid decline, brought on by her lung cancer. We, my brothers and I, thought that she still had months.Now mum and dad are gone there is such a void. I cannot face work ... Marking, modules, noise, stroppy teenagers. How have others coped? I just about managed to with dad, but I feel that this is going to be worse. I am phobic about going back to a job which is so loaded with stress, while I am so grief stricken.