Sorry, I'm not really sure whether I'm after advice or just feel the need to vent. Do feel free to ignore! My mum, this weekend, told me I had become a "harsh person" as well as being "harsh on myself". Obviously I'm not as harsh as all that, as I was massively upset by being told that! Her reasoning was: I get too stressed; I refuse to ask for help; I get defensive; I turn down offers of help because I feel that people feel obligated to help me, whereas they actually offer because they wish to help. My reasons for being, I readily admit, a grumpy mare at the time (!): I invited someone round on Friday, who left later than planned which meant I was tired for....: a Saturday spent visiting relatives for 'lunch' which lasted 8 hours (I was meant to be getting my planning sortedfor next week aftr lunch!; having to make an unplanned stop over and then leave my car so it could be fixed as it has randomly become legally undrivable... I know I was grumpy - I admitted so, said I needed a little grump and apologised the next day. Being told that I was "far too stressed" and needed to "learn how to cope" really ****ed my off. Grr!