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Been poorly going back to work

Discussion in 'Health and wellbeing' started by gemma_83, Apr 21, 2012.

  1. Hi I am new here so hello!! I have been signed off work for the past 3 months with 'depression' I had a month off in December and a month last year due to 'stress'. Due to restructuring at my NHS trust my pshychiatrist left who I had had for a while, he had reffered me to a privte psychologist specialising in dealing with bits from childhood, anyway started work in that and she said I needed more support. So now have a CPN again, waiting for a shrink to look at meds again and supposed to be starting therapy imminently.
    I am well at the moment, time off helps not suffering flashbacks, being overworked all helps. I supposedly have Borderline Personality Disorder so find when I am struggling I self harm, use food, get very suicidal - take overdoses. Normally i manage with a little harm and working hard as I am a perfectionist, I am a single Mum and want to be perfect at that too.
    Doctor knows I want to be back and is thinking a couple of weeks phased return 50% I contacted the boss and asked if this time I would be referred to occupational health which I am. I think it might be good but I am not sure if it is. Previously I have had a meeting with my line manager and we talk about strategies and things he could do but nothing changes. So maybe it is good?
    I am worried about starting therapy again at school though because I end up in a bit of a mess if they want to touch on the kid stuff but know I have to deal with that. Not sure how to manage any of it or how work will be.

    Ok that was a long offload, just needed to get it off my chest. Gem
     
  2. Hi I am new here so hello!! I have been signed off work for the past 3 months with 'depression' I had a month off in December and a month last year due to 'stress'. Due to restructuring at my NHS trust my pshychiatrist left who I had had for a while, he had reffered me to a privte psychologist specialising in dealing with bits from childhood, anyway started work in that and she said I needed more support. So now have a CPN again, waiting for a shrink to look at meds again and supposed to be starting therapy imminently.
    I am well at the moment, time off helps not suffering flashbacks, being overworked all helps. I supposedly have Borderline Personality Disorder so find when I am struggling I self harm, use food, get very suicidal - take overdoses. Normally i manage with a little harm and working hard as I am a perfectionist, I am a single Mum and want to be perfect at that too.
    Doctor knows I want to be back and is thinking a couple of weeks phased return 50% I contacted the boss and asked if this time I would be referred to occupational health which I am. I think it might be good but I am not sure if it is. Previously I have had a meeting with my line manager and we talk about strategies and things he could do but nothing changes. So maybe it is good?
    I am worried about starting therapy again at school though because I end up in a bit of a mess if they want to touch on the kid stuff but know I have to deal with that. Not sure how to manage any of it or how work will be.

    Ok that was a long offload, just needed to get it off my chest. Gem
     
  3. fantastischfish

    fantastischfish Established commenter

    I'm by no means a professional. However, it sounds to me as though you still have a great deal to contend with and that going back at this time of year when other staff are at their most stressed (just think about the atmosphere at my school at present owing to exam pressure) might not be the best time. I'm sure your colleagues are willing to support you, but are they equipped to right now? Perhaps let things settle down a bit before returning? Also, it seems as though you are still a bit unstable in term of your health (you talk about still dealing with self-harm and being suicidal), so is is wise to go back to work when feeling like this?
    I don't knw for sure, just making an observation not a judgement. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best and hope the doctors and your colleague give you the correct support to help you get through this.
    Best wishes
    Eva x x x
     
  4. I hear what you are saying, part of me wanting to go back is I am in a one person department and they have just had general cover I have set them work pretty much the whole time I have been away but feel bad for them for their exams. Self harm does still feature in my life and has for a very very long time it's almost 'normal'. Doctors reckon it's is good for me to get into work just not sure and don't want to make a mess of work and me.
    Thanks for reading the bleugh Eva

    Gemma
     
  5. Torey

    Torey Occasional commenter

    You could contact access to work as well to see what support could be put in place to help you return. A longer phased return might help. Can you afford to be part time? If you had your sessions on a Friday then you might find it easier.
     

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