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At the end of my tether with poor behaviour!

Discussion in 'Behaviour' started by wolverina, Jul 10, 2012.

  1. I have a Year 5 class, who are, apart from a handful and one child in particular, very nice, lovely children. Yesterday I had to come home from school at lunchtime as I just couldn't face the class (it was the one child who pushed me to the limit); I felt that if I'd stayed I would have done or said something which would have led to me being disciplined!! I have taught for over 30 years and have dealt with some fairly difficult kids but have always managed to control them and deal with them in a fair but firm manner. This said child has behaved in a downright rude, disrespectful and unpleasant manner all year and has not had his behaviour challenged and dealt with by SMT; he is given a "quiet chat" and then sent back to class; there are no consequences at all - losing a playtime would be quite a novelty! He has been allowed to behave like this since he was in infants and everyone has complained about his behaviour yet nothing has been done to make him conform to expected standards of behaviour. Parents are not particularly supportive and HT does not stand up to them and tell them that his behaviour is totally unacceptable.
    This is just a brief outline of what I and my support staff have had to put up with throughout the year: child constantly shouts out/talks over other people - is given 5 minute time out yet repeats this offence; when asked to do something by an adult that he doesn't want to do he huffs and puffs - when told again he frequently responds with "For God's sake!"; or will swear under his breath; has completely ignored requests to do something, such as put a book away and will then do it very slowly; has pushed adults out of the way to get out of the room; shouts at, argues with adults and answers back aggressively; is defiant and intimidates other children; throws his books across the table and pushes his chair back so that it falls over when asked to leave the room.
    This may not be much in the grand scheme of things and I know other teachers will probably have far worse things to contend with; it's just that SMT don't support staff in dealing with this type of behaviour. We are all waiting for something really, dreadfully serious to happen in the near future!
     
  2. I have a Year 5 class, who are, apart from a handful and one child in particular, very nice, lovely children. Yesterday I had to come home from school at lunchtime as I just couldn't face the class (it was the one child who pushed me to the limit); I felt that if I'd stayed I would have done or said something which would have led to me being disciplined!! I have taught for over 30 years and have dealt with some fairly difficult kids but have always managed to control them and deal with them in a fair but firm manner. This said child has behaved in a downright rude, disrespectful and unpleasant manner all year and has not had his behaviour challenged and dealt with by SMT; he is given a "quiet chat" and then sent back to class; there are no consequences at all - losing a playtime would be quite a novelty! He has been allowed to behave like this since he was in infants and everyone has complained about his behaviour yet nothing has been done to make him conform to expected standards of behaviour. Parents are not particularly supportive and HT does not stand up to them and tell them that his behaviour is totally unacceptable.
    This is just a brief outline of what I and my support staff have had to put up with throughout the year: child constantly shouts out/talks over other people - is given 5 minute time out yet repeats this offence; when asked to do something by an adult that he doesn't want to do he huffs and puffs - when told again he frequently responds with "For God's sake!"; or will swear under his breath; has completely ignored requests to do something, such as put a book away and will then do it very slowly; has pushed adults out of the way to get out of the room; shouts at, argues with adults and answers back aggressively; is defiant and intimidates other children; throws his books across the table and pushes his chair back so that it falls over when asked to leave the room.
    This may not be much in the grand scheme of things and I know other teachers will probably have far worse things to contend with; it's just that SMT don't support staff in dealing with this type of behaviour. We are all waiting for something really, dreadfully serious to happen in the near future!
     
  3. spiderwomen

    spiderwomen New commenter

    If the child has problems and you believe they need specialist help, and the SENCO team are doing nothing about it, then you should call the behaviour team for your borough. If you've kept a detailed record of all incidents, including who was involved, what triggered the behaviour etc, then you've got documented evidence. Teachers need to fight harder than ever to get these children help- it's not fair on the child, the other children or the class teacher to put up with this behaviour and violence. Take matters into your own hands if necessary and seek advice from unions and the borough. Don't put up with it!
     
  4. Child isn't on SEN register; he is just downright badly behaved! Our SENCO is very experienced in her role and is highly though of by the LA; she has taught this child and also believes he has no other issues apart from his behaviour which hasn't been challenged by SMT! I have kept detailed records of incidents of his poor behaviour throughout the year and there are no triggers as such - perhaps the only one being he's been asked to do something he doesn't want to do!!
     
  5. bigkid

    bigkid New commenter

    If I were in this situation I would probably force the issue by repeatedly sending him out, to a member of SLT, with a TA to escort him there and make sure he arrives.
     

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