Please help me because I have noone to turn to. Last night I argued with my partner over the cooking and cleaning or lack of on his part. As often happens he got very angry. I started recording his rant on my phone which I realise was provocative but I wanted evidence of his unreasonable behaviour - maybe I thought if he could hear himself he would learn to control his temper. Anyway he said he was going to take my phone and smash it. He grabbed me and tried to wrestle the phone off me. I tried very hard to stop him and in the end had to beg him not to and plead how sorry I was. He eventually let go of me. I am currently off work at the moment recovering from surgery which in my mind makes it quite brutal. I locked myself in the bathroom but he used tools to undo the lock from the outside. I got in the car to leave but he held the car door preventing me from going. I can not move very fast at the moment so could not shut the door quick enough. My family all live at the other end of the country and I am too ashamed to seek support from my friends. He is very sorry today but says he was angry and provoked. I think he sees it all as less serious than me. I don't know what to do. I feel if I were able to forgive I would be giving the wrong message to my teenage son and should not accept this in anyway. I feel like going to the police to see if they can impress upon him how unacceptable this is but do not know how this would affect my son. He says the police would laugh at me. I just need someone elses perspective on this. Maybe I am over reacting.