Just out of interest really. Idle musings of my procrastinating brain. Any explanation as to why one over the other would be welcomed Personally, I'm someone who's always very acutely aware of the impression I'm making on other people - probably a little too much as it tends to cause quite a lot of anxiety - and I think I presume that other people must do the same, so I judge people quite quickly. But then again I'm so often wrong that I do try to counteract that instinct. Maybe I'm just rubbish at judging what people are really like. Or maybe it's just that in the age of social media, there's a much clearer window into people's private lives and thoughts so the differences between my judgements and the reality are more easily noticed, and actually my initial judgement was perfectly fine for the nature of our relationship and I'm just holding people to standards higher than they realistically need to be. Like, it doesn't really matter if my sister's wedding florist is a bit racist, or thinks gay people shouldn't be allowed to adopt, so long as she does nice flowers. I don't know. I wish I was better at working out what people are really like though, it'd avoid a lot of disappointment.