Hellooo, Just to give you the background, I'm a primary NQT but have been unsuccessful in securing a teaching post and have started work as an LSA in a secondary school. I have 5 kids I work with for a few hours a week, from Y7-10. I have only so far met one of my Y7 charges. I was waiting beside his place as he sat down and brightly said: 'Hi, ____. I'm Miss L. and I'm going to be working with you in a few of your lessons.' His response? 'Oh, for ****'s sake!' I didn't want to get into a fight on our first meeting so I just said that that's not appropriate language to use in school. His reply? 'Get lost!' (Lol.) So then he sat, his whole body turned as far away from me as possible. He refused to interact with me at all. When I tried to speak to him (like, when he was staring into space instead of starting the activity and I asked if he had everything he needed), he just repeated: 'Get lost!' He refused to speak to me and sat hiding his work from me. I could, however, glance bits of it and it looked fine. Handwriting was cursive, spelling perfect, answers correct, etc. And despite the delay in getting started, once he did, he just silently got on with the work set. So I glanced at the bit of paper I've been given about my kids and there is no mention of any academic problems. It just says that he has social and communication problems and is prone to aggressive behaviour against adults and children. I chatted to the teacher after the lesson and he was lovely about it. He was horrified about the 'Oh, for f*cks sake' and said he could see why I hadn't got angry about it but that he wouldn't tolerate it again, but was also at a loss as to how you make a child accept the help of an LSA when they obviously don't want or need it. He could only suggest talking to the SENCO but I don't want to look like I already can't hack it! Actually, I'm going off on a bit of a tangent and should be posting that in the TA forum... What I wanted to ask of you behaviour experts is... Help? I have to go to all of this kid's English lessons, his D&T and his Art. How can I make him open up to me, other than being patient? Obviously when I see him again on Thursday (shudder) for English AND Art (shudder), it will be a clean slate and I'll act as pleased to see him as I was today. And if the only reason he has an LSA is that he is prone to aggressive violent behaviour... what should I do?! I was only offered the job on the last day of the summer term, so it isn't the school's fault, but I've had no time for any training. I know this sounds a bit stupid coming from a qualified teacher but... If he starts having an aggressive tantrum, do I remove him from the classroom? Can I touch him? Can I make him? What if he assaults me or a pupil? I only took this LSA job as a stopgap to a teaching job, I really would not like to be struck off during this time!!! Am now absolutely dreading meeting the next two of these kids tomorrow! Please help! Many thanks xx PS: Can I just be really bloody elderly and grouchy and say that I am only 26 and I would never have DREAMT of speaking to an adult (in school or out) like that when I was 11! You know even when you got told off for something you REALLY hadn't done and you had that huge sense of injustice about the whole thing?! I literally wouldn't have dared! Little sod!