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An inspiring event is coming up on 31st and a practical story to help deal with stressful situations

Discussion in 'Professional development' started by durgamata, Jan 7, 2020.

  1. durgamata

    durgamata Occasional commenter

    Hi Guys,

    It's the start of a new year and I'm now teaching part time to enable me to develop strategies to support my wonderful teacher-colleagues.

    I will be sharing what over 30 years of teaching has taught me by offering workshops and speaking on topics related to my specialist subjects of RE and Art. Also Mindfulness Meditation and Wellbeing.

    One event I'll be speaking at is mainly for women - pure inspiration with about 30 speakers and many workshops on 31st Jan.

    Debora Luzi is hosting this Event I'm keeping up with what she's doing and this morning her experience inspired me to share a story which you may find useful...

    Debora was sharing an experience she had while giving out leaflets for this event at a station this morning. She wrote...

    I can write a book with all the stories happening while I do leafleting for my conference. This morning I was at another train station.

    It was a rather good day as almost every woman took a leaflet. Then one lady arrived. She did not look very happy. I smiled and said....

    “ Women's conference in London”

    She stopped and said: “ What is this?” So I went on to explain in a very clear English with a smile and enthusiasm, as when I speak about the conference my heart lights up, what the conference was about...

    She listened and then replied with very angry eyes: “ You must learn our language first before you do these things. I did not understand a word you said.” For a moment, a split moment I felt upset, angry, I was like “ Why is she saying that?” She took the leaflet and run off.

    I stopped for a second and I almost wanted to leave. Then I centred again, I reminded myself WHY I was there, WHY I am doing this..... And I kept going, and more women took my leaflets.

    You see, there will always be people in your life who tell you you are ****, ****, you are not good etc... And this will trigger the heck out of you,

    But.... Let it pass. Remember that everyone has their own demons... And make sure that THEIR demons do not stand a chance to mess up with your WHY.

    Much daring and spoken love,


    I was inspired to post a reply:

    Hello Debora. I would like to offer you my Grandmotherly advice regarding the lady you mention. I'm sure you know it anyway - but others may find it helpful.

    One of the biggest obstacles to our inner progress is the ego which is the part of us which asserts our individual human identity. As we make spiritual progress we expand our heart of oneness so increasingly we feel that we are a real part of everyone and everything - and all the universe - is in our heart.

    We need the ego as we grow up from childhood to establish our individual identity - but as we progress spiritually it stands in our way. It always likes to separate and compete with others. It wants to be on top. It wants to fight anyone who attacks us. So it stands in the way of our inner progress.

    So when someone says or does something that makes us feel upset or angry - or 'ruffles our feathers' in some way, immediately embrace that experience with gratitude because it is drawing your attention to the existence if your ego and giving you the opportunity to transcend the ego. The secret is to bring forward your heart of compassion and inwardly immediately forgive and embrace the other person.

    The story I love best about this comes from Hinduism. In Hinduism God is Absolutely Unknowable - The Brahmin - One Transcendent Entity, utterly beyond human comprehension and not limited in any way by things like space or time or gender. But because one of God's qualities is Omnipresence, Hindu sages found that through intense concentration, meditation and devotion God can be found in anything - even a stone. And the sages said there are 33 million deities, meaning that there are infinite ways of approaching God.

    Hinduism has no one Founder but evolved like a garden of wisdom, tended over thousands of years by the great Sages who are like the Gardeners.

    The impersonal Brahmin is only the start of Hindu philosophy, but it's important to start here and remember that Hinduism is MONOTHEIST in its roots. So often people just see the outer face of all the deities and think it's polytheist with lots of unconnected gods and godesses!

    Within Hinduism the nature of God is (in Sanskrit language) 'Sat Chit Ananda' which is Existence, Consciousness and Bliss. But that is something only sages with deep experience in meditation can really understand, so the secrets are 'unpacked' through mythology into the rich and complex array of deities which can be worshipped in a more direct way.

    There are three principle deities or aspects of God - Brahma, Shiva and Vishnu.

    Brahma is Creator

    Shiva is Transformer (often called Destroyer as this is the force that clears the path so new things can be created) And

    Vishnu is Preserver. This is the aspect of God that comes into the world as Avatar, to teach humanity. (Hindus recognise Sri Rama, Sri Krishna, The Buddha, Jesus and a few other great Teachers as Avatars or direct incarnations of God in human form.)

    And now I can tell you the story.

    There was a great Hindu sage and seeker who wanted to find out which of these three deities, Brahma, Shiva and Vishnu, was the greatest. He had been meditating for many lifetimes so he could approach the deities quite freely. First he went to Brahma and insulted him. Brahma was very angry. He only just escaped. So next he went to Shiva and insulted him. Shiva was even more angry. It was quite a miracle that he escaped Shiva's wrath.
    Finally he approached Vishnu. Vishnu was sleeping. He gave Vishnu a Big Kick! Vishnu jumped up in alarm. Seeing the Sage who had kicked him he bent down and gently took the sages foot in his hands. He said with real concern, 'Oh! Did you hurt your foot?' That is how the Sage came to know that of these three deities, Vishnu was the greatest!

    Compassion is the greatest power. It lies at the heart of love. So when anyone hurts or insults you, immediately ignore or forgive the attack and embrace them with your heart of love and compassion.

    Never take it personally.

    Be aware that your encounter with that person was not the cause of the incident. They were already suffering in some way.

    Who knows what the underlying issues may have been for the lady Debora met at the station that morning. She must have been so angry and stressed from events in her morning. The great thing is that she did take the leaflet. At the Event there will be many speakers and activities which empower and inspire. I do hope she comes to it and gains a lot.

    Here is a link to book a place on 31st. Please come and also share with your friends. It will be a great way to start the year with powerful positive energy and joy.

    Happy New Year.

    Grab your ticket here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/women-who-dare-to-desire-conference-tickets-64738980032

    All my love

  2. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    I'm a bit confused.
  3. speaker2

    speaker2 Occasional commenter

    Just checking, but does TES not have any rules about not using its community forums for advertising services , events, companies etc?

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