My best friend is getting married this year, and has become a bit of a bridezilla expecting everyone to jump for anything to do with the wedding. Just been on the hen do (Part 2! She wanted so much we had to split it into two parts!) which was a weekend away in Manchester with a night out on the tiles - all of which I organised, and spent a good chunk of money on (including the hotel room for both her and I, petrol for driving her up and back, contributing to her meal etc). We had a good night, but it was punctuated by her drunkenly rambling about us doing "Whatever the hell everyone else wants to do, who cares?" because there was a mixture of people...even though we were all happy to do whatever she wanted, and she refused to state where SHE wanted to go anyway! On the Sunday morning I began to feel quite poorly. It wasnt alcohol related - I stayed sober to look after everyone, and forced myself to stay awake until 4am when they decided they had had enough and finaly wanted to come back to the hotel room!. At about 10am (Having been awake with stomach pain since 6!) I asked if her if we could make a move sooner rather than later - 4 hours later and we were still hanging around the hotel waiting to say bye to everyone. Her sister then suggested we go to the local macdonalds for lunch, and when I suggested we drive through so that we could get home as I was feeling quite poorly, I was ignored. I arrived home feeling a little upset and miffed that despite putting so much effort into the weekend, she hadn't even given me a thought that morning. I then had about an hour to prepare for teaching this week and relax with my partner before falling into bed in a sleepy poorly heap, and had to ring in sick yesterday. She seems to be in the frame of mind that because she is getting married this year, the world must revolve around her. During the macdonalds she "told me" that the day before the wedding, I am going to the spa her sister works at, having a massage (That I will no doubt be forking even more out for) and staying over at her parents house with her, her sisters and her brother (they have quite a large family) so that we are all together for the day before and during the day of the wedding. It means i'll be away from my home and my partner for two whole days. It sounds daft, but I am such a homebird who is used to my own company and actually start to feel down and miserable when away from home for a night. I asked her if she would mind me staying quite late, then going home to sleep (its only a 30 minute drive) and returning early in the morning so that I was well rested for the wedding and she did the whole "Well its up to you but it would be nice to be together" thing with a strop. Am I being completely unreasonable to not want to stay over the night before the wedding? I love her to bits (before bridezilla struck!) and want to do everything I can to make it the happiest day of her life, but I do not particularly enjoy her families company and I never relax around them - and do not want to be tired, fed up and missing my own partner/home comforts during her wedding day. I would like just a little bit of down-time to take a breather before the day, and am quite cross that she is 'telling' me what we are doing and not asking. I may be a bridesmaid but I am not her flippin' slave! I just wanted a rant...and of course, any opinions on whether not I am being a complete cowbag!