Before I start, bit of a sensitive soul here posting, so please no mean replies! I understand that by putting out there on this forum, I am asking for honest opinions, but anyways... It was my little boy's first birthday party this afternoon. I deliberately kept it small, only really close friends and their children. A close friend of mine (bridesmaid at my wedding, I am godmother to her daughter) didn't come because her four year old little girl didn't want to, and wanted to see her grandad instead (who she sees on a regular basis). I really wanted them to both be there, so am a little bit upset. But should I be annoyed? To be fair, said friend really shouldn't have to force her LO to attend, and four year olds can be stubborn! On the hand other, would it have been unreasonable to expect my friend to try and get her to come for half an hour or so? Or to ask her dad to watch LO whilst she popped her head in? I really don't understand as the little girl has grown up knowing me, but then again, I don't have a four year old, so don't know how they work!!!