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Alone in new town and lost confidence

Discussion in 'NQTs and new teachers' started by Pattyclaire, Mar 12, 2017.

  1. Pattyclaire

    Pattyclaire New commenter

    Due to a lack of jobs in my subject in the area I had to move away for my NQT year. I found a great school that seemed to suit me about 2 hours away. Generally this year things have been fine ok, but lately I've been finding everything really tough. The stress of year 11 coursework coupled with a horrendous year 10 class and the constant threat of OFSTED are really getting me down. I don't know anyone in the area and live with 3 rather antisocial people who I have nothing in common with, so I just sit in my room and plan/mark or watch TV. I hate being alone and I don't have a social life so I just end up worrying about school all the time and my horrible classes have really knocked my confidence. I don't feel like I am able to teach a good lesson anymore and I'm sick of being lonely all the time. Any advice on how to rebuild my confidence and make friends in a new town?
     
  2. blueskydreaming

    blueskydreaming Lead commenter

    I spent my PGCE and NQT year away from everyone; although it was only 30 miles I was too busy with school work to pop home at the weekend, so I can sympathise. I'm rubbish at making friends, so I don't have any useful advice on that I'm afraid, except to say are there any other NQTs in the school that you could bond with? There were three of us who bonded during my year, to some extent - we had drinks, a meal, text messages, emails, a friendly word when we passed in the corridors etc. Other than that, join a club, something like a book group that actually involves talking? Or a gym class?
     
  3. bananatree84

    bananatree84 Occasional commenter

    Sorry you are having a tough time it is hard feeling lonely. Have you any hobbies you could do to meet people?
     
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  4. Shedman

    Shedman Star commenter

    Join a choir. Go to a church. Invite colleagues out for a drink. Volunteer it you have time. Join a theatre group. Go to a gym or swimming pool. Invite your neighbours round for a meal. You'll meet new people an perhaps make friends if you do any of these. Just get out and do something. People won't come to you!
     
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  5. RuthTom

    RuthTom Occasional commenter

    Join stuff. Anything where you might be able to talk to people. There should be a few social groups around for youngish people- ask at the local library as they often have information on all the local groups.
     
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  6. Mazod

    Mazod Occasional commenter

    I lived abroad for a while and was given the advice to accept any invitation I received as I might meet someone who would become a friend. It worked well and if you get out and meet people you'll start receiving invitations and will end up meeting people like you.
     

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