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advice please, thankyou

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by laineylou, Feb 8, 2011.

  1. Hi, recently i have had some difficulties at work concerning
    another member of staff who is senior to me. Although i didnt intend to
    (as the head can be difficult), i ended up telling the head how i felt
    about the situation. I then, on her advice, addressed it 1-1 with the
    person and reported back to the head as i was asked to. I told the head
    that i did not want the matter taken any further and that i felt
    confident knowing that the head now knew about the situation, that
    things would improve. She agreed and even went on to adivse me of what
    to say and do in the future should a similar situation arise. I was
    happy with this and drew a line under the event.
    However, the
    head has now called a meeting between herself, me and the individual
    concerned. Can i refuse to go seeing as i made it clear i wanted no
    further action taken?
     
  2. Hi, recently i have had some difficulties at work concerning
    another member of staff who is senior to me. Although i didnt intend to
    (as the head can be difficult), i ended up telling the head how i felt
    about the situation. I then, on her advice, addressed it 1-1 with the
    person and reported back to the head as i was asked to. I told the head
    that i did not want the matter taken any further and that i felt
    confident knowing that the head now knew about the situation, that
    things would improve. She agreed and even went on to adivse me of what
    to say and do in the future should a similar situation arise. I was
    happy with this and drew a line under the event.
    However, the
    head has now called a meeting between herself, me and the individual
    concerned. Can i refuse to go seeing as i made it clear i wanted no
    further action taken?
     
  3. I don't think you should refuse to go as the other person may have called the meeting if they don't want it to drop. It maybe that your HT is trying to get both parties to meet in the middle or at least find a mutually agreed solution so that they (the HT) is not caught up in the middle of it anymore. You could try asking the HT to tell you what the meeting is for before you go to it, so you are prepared.
     
  4. thats all i want really, to know what im going into. it feels wrong to kept in the dark like this, especially as the person i am in disagreement with is senior to me and is close to the head.
     
  5. I would also ask to have a supporter with you. Ask that person to take notes of anything they think is significant and to pull you out of the meeting if it gets too much.
     

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