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Advice On My Unstable Parent...

Discussion in 'Health and wellbeing' started by FeatherCat, Feb 28, 2018.

  1. FeatherCat

    FeatherCat New commenter


    I have gone no contact recently with my extremely unstable parent. This is a euphemism for what this person is. This is following a long history of abuse, and it has left me in a vulnerable position. I am concerned this parent will contact my school in an attempt to reach me. I am handling this via all the right channels and have professional and personal support where I am. The parent lives far away so their appearing is not an issue. It is just not safe or appropriate for me to communicate with them anymore. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? Should I tell the school something?

  2. lindenlea

    lindenlea Star commenter

    If they are legally not allowed to contact you then school need to know. If it's your preference that they should not contact you but they do know where you work I would think the office need to know but you can't expect them to take any action on your behalf.
    Lara mfl 05 likes this.
  3. Lalad

    Lalad Star commenter

    Some years ago, my now ex-husband, who was extremely unstable at the time, caused mayhem at my school when he turned up with a bunch of flowers and managed to get into a classroom after following a staff member in through the main gate.

    Fortunately my HT was able to defuse the situation and escort him off the premises but it did prompt a review of security at the school.My ex was legally allowed to contact me but he was mentally unstable and unpredictable, to the extent of presenting a threat to both himself and others: he phoned the school (and the school my children attended) to say that I was a paedophile and unfit to be near children. If I hadn't made the school aware of the situation in advance, I could have ended up suspended - and had my children taken into care - while these allegations were investigated.

    I think you can expect your school to take action on your behalf, as long as they are aware of the situation - so make sure you put your HT in the picture.
    Lara mfl 05 likes this.

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