I need opinions/help/advice please! I apologise now for how long this may be! My parents divorced when I was a few months old and my father loved to another country (10 hour flight away). My Mum remarried when I was 6 and her new husband adopted me as his own and he's been the only dad i've ever known (he met my mum when I was 2). He is and always has been my dad and I only got back in contact with my biological father when I was 15 and have seen him about 5 times since then. We don't speak often as he is too busy with his supposedly important jet setting lifestyle. I started calling him 'dad' as part of my teenage rebellion against my parents but now regret that as he isn't really my dad at all. Becoming a parent is really making me think about the relationship that I have with my biological father and is making me question whether I want her to know him because I know she won't see him often at all ( every 3 years if she is lucky) and he never remembers birthdays or christmas and never answers emails or phonecalls. He is a very over the top person so when he is around he is very much a self loving person who shows off about everything and i'm worried about what impact this will have on my daughter as she grows up. My dilema is that I don't know what to do about his relationship with my daughter who is due in a month. I feel very strongly that my daughter should know about her heritage (I have foreign blood and very obviously get my looks from his side of the family because of this) and I do not want to lie to her, however I also know that my mum and dad in this country are my parents and really that my biological father is just a random family member and will never be a proper grandparent to my daughter. Now, the reason i'm thinking about this is because my biological father has declared that he wants to be called granddad instead of the alternative I suggested (basically our familys cultures name for granddad - it acknowledges him as a family member but won't confuse my daughter as to who is her real granddad). Am I just being an emotional pregnant *** or am I right to question this? Is anyone else in a similar position? Any advice or ideas? I'm not sure what to do as I know that if I refuse his request to be called Granddad that it will cause a HUGE and messy arguement. This is really stressing me out ARGHHHHH!!!!