I’ll try and keep this short, but would appreciate anyone’s professional opinion..! Over the past few weeks, I’ve started tutoring a Year 6 pupil. She has learning needs, identified, to date, as being around attention and memory (she is having a new ed psych report done in the new year). As a tutor with experience of SEN, mum approached me to help support the pupil in the run up to SATs (the ed psych report was done months ago but no extra support has, apparently, been offered by school, or sought, privately). Having started with our tutoring, I subsequently learnt that the pupil was being put forward for the 11 + (private), but supposedly with a school that could accommodate SEN. Based on getting to know the pupil, I expressed concern about the level to which they would suddenly need to reach advance of the exam, within a few weeks (this was still a mainstream school). Suffice to say, unfortunately, the pupil was not accepted by this school. Feedback from the school has been received by mum, but I have been told that not much information was actually given. Since then, mum has arranged for the pupil to take the 11 + at another school. I have been happy to support this aim, based on my impression that mum would be choosing a school that would be to accommodate her daughter’s needs. Again, I conveyed my concern that the 11+ exams would be very challenging for her. The pupil has been shielded from the process by not being told very much about what is going on. Although I am supporting this new 11 + exam process, frustratingly, as has been the pattern to date, when I’ve asked, mum will not tell me what school the child is trying for (I can only think that she is wary that I might challenge her confidence further that everything is going to work out all right in the end). NB although I sound like a great misery about all of this, I do prioritise being positive in approaching the situation! I know that, in theory, I could tutor each particular area (e.g. comprehension, writing, verbal reasoning – I’m not covering maths/ non-verbal reasoning); mum has outlined those which will be required by this particular school. However, I’m starting to feel a bit like a (dare I say it) collaborator! Quite important (and basic) information being withheld from me is starting to make me feel uncomfortable, particularly in a professional capacity. I’m going to have one more crack at finding out the name of the school, because I think that is quite important (including in terms of respect for myself as a professional, to be honest!). Am I right to feel uncomfortable? Am I just a little bit tired as I drag myself towards the end of term?! If anyone has had a similar experience or can offer their thoughts, I’d be so grateful! Many thanks.